My boyfriend has a commitment-phobia?

Question

I have been with my bf for over 3 and half years. we have been engaged 3 times. Everytime we get close to the wedding he backs out or breaks up with me. But comes crawling back saying he is in love with me and cant live without me. The last time we were engaged he called it off 1 month before the wedding. I lost alot of money and now i am just confused and upset. Why does he do this to me? Now he tells me he doesnt ever wanna get married cuz a piece of paper means NOTHING to him. Does than mean I mean nothing to him either? I mean he wont move out of his parents house either! I am starting to believe he is just keeping me around for a booty call, but d**n! After almost 4 years? I deserve something right?

Answer 1

I would have said good bye after the first *break up*. You can't let him play with you that way, and you were engaged.. seriously, how can you let a guy do that, one month before the real deal. He now knows he can controle you and does what he wants because you let him do that for over 3 years now, and he's inn full controle. Get out of  that realationship, no guy can be worth that. And yeah, you look 12 years old?

good luck!

Answer 2

He can't make important decisions and it sounds like he won't ever be independant.

Stops wasting time, money and tears on this man. You sound like an extremely patient girl who's in love with a fairy tale dream that isn't ever going to happen. 4 years wasted and backing out of 3 engagements should tell you this.

If marriage is important to you, (sounds like it is), then this guy isn't ever going to make you feel like #1. He's too insecure himself to make you feel secure.

Answer 3

commitment-phobia? its just a lame excuse for players who want to stay single for life. if i were u i would not waste the remaining years of my life, u have already wasted 4 years so move on. y would u wanna be wid a guy who doesnt wanna move out of his moms house. he couldnt even stand on his own feet, so house do u expect him to take care of his family.