My brother is unwanted at home..

Question

he is my half brother and he lived across the country with his dad for 2 years. he hates it there. but my dad, which is his step dad does not want him here.

my brother is a great person and i dont understand why my dad is so mean. everytime i try to talk to him about it he yells at me. my mom and i cry for my brother every night because he doesn't know where to go.

how can i convince my dad to understand that it would be nice to have him around for his senior year? i want to write him a letter, its the only way he can hear what i have to say without cutting me off.

i need to say something so meaningful that my father will have some sort of feeling or sadness.

please help me before the summer is over!

Answer 1

This is a very difficult situation.. First of all you need to understand how you dad feels about him and why he might feel this way..  

Your dad might feel hurt that your half brother left the family for 2 years and now wants back in.. There might be somthing that happened that you don't know about..

You need to sit down with your dad and tell him that it is hurting you that he wont tell you what is up..  Say that you love you half brother very much and you want to know why he is no longer welcomed in the family..  He needs to understand your feelings completely..

Communication is key..

Hope this helps..  GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

your father actuly feels now if he brings the other son he needs to fend him on all his needs, men usualy avoid in taking financial responsiblity. you need to convinvce your dad that he will in no way be financial burden in your family and will take care of himself.

Answer 3

It is possible that your step-dad,  without realizing it, is assossiating your brother with his father's personality, and might feel threatened by it.  He might feel that your mom would give your brother more attention than him.  It sounds as though your step-dad has not taken the time to get to know your brother, and so he doesn't really know what a great guy he is.  It's not easy for some men to open up to others.  Your step-dad and mom might benefit from some counciling.  

Answer 4

well first of all your mother needs to put her foot down and tell your dad he's my son and he's coming here and that's that deal with it your dad sounds like a very selfish man who only things of him self tell him this is family and family always helps family

Answer 5

letter is a good idea and your dad is pro mad at the fact that is not his son

and the letter should work but i dont think it will convince him because he eeds to see the look in your eyes

Answer 6

Get your mom to talk to him with you so he will know both of you want him back and are upset about not being able to have him there as part of the family to.Ask you dad why he feels so bad at your brother .Let him know unless it's talked out it will never be fixed and the reason you wanted to talk to him in person is because you are wonder if he would  do it to you to.Let him know if he does this to your brother what is stopping him from doing this to you.Maybe it will get you some answers.

Answer 7

Tell him that it would mean the world to you if your brother could just visit. Maybe after your dad actually gets to know him, he'll let him stay. It might not work, but give it a try.

Who the h**l is HE to say whether your brother can stay or not? He's not HIS child. Wow, I would have to kill your dad if I ever met him.