My friend has no manners...?

Question

Whenever we go out to eat, he always says "Give me this" or "Give me that" or "I want another piece of fish." SELDOM he says please and thank you. I'm trying to break him of this habit but I'm not getting very far with him. I always thank the waitress FOR him. I've gotten him to say "thank you" here and there but he needs more proper ediquitte. How do I help him to be more *proper* when we go out to eat?

Answer 1

Have you talk to him about this?

Answer 2

Keep training him.... he is like ur new little pet... you have to teach him!

Answer 3

You learn manners when you are little so if he hasn't learned he won't now. It's not your place to say thank you for him.

Answer 4

Just keep trying 2 talk 2 him about that.

Answer 5

Don't give him thanks,& all if he asking about that than told him if your not giving thanks to anyone Y should i give you.So If you want respect & all than you should follow this.

Answer 6

keep teaching, be his trainer. when you are out there and somebody did a favor for him, don't hesitate to tell him to return the favor by saying those gratuitous words.

Answer 7

hmmmmmmmm

rude and discurious and having no maners

his parents didn't raise him right then

too late to teach him maybe

Answer 8

Sorry, but if you're thanking the waitress for him, you're condoning that behaviour and not giving your friend any reason to change. Stop it right now and see what happens.

Answer 9

If you are thanking the waitress for him, look at him when you are thanking her. to let him know why you are doing it. If that doesnt work tell him straight up. work on your manners it might be a little embarrasing for him not you . In the long run he will get more respect and maybe not so much spit in his food .

Answer 10

If you love him so much why can't you accept his faults?

Are you sleeping with him? If not it's really not your place to correct him is it. Growing up without a mother is not an excuse for his lack of manners.

Answer 11

if he wasn't brought up having to use them then good lucking teaching them now.

Answer 12

tell tiz situation 2 him.......in a gud friendly way

Answer 13

Purchase that book "Etiquette for Dummies." Give that book to him. : )

Answer 14

have a talk with him and tell him politly how you feel, than practice with him when your not eating out when your like eating at school or home or something

Answer 15

He's been taught what he does from birth. You are not going to change that over night. You may not be able to change it at all. Just make sure you make up for it.

Answer 16

you should have a talk with him.... tell him it really bothers you!

Answer 17

Don't go out to eat with him if it's embarassing because he has no manners.  You shouldn't have to say please and thank you for him. I have been a waitress for many years and have seen people just like him and trust me, if he's a bad customer and hassle for the waitress you don't want to be associated with being at his table. Luckily since you're nice to the server for him, you will be treated nicely by the server... but some people might tamper with his food. I've seen servers do that before. I never would, but I've seen it happen.

Answer 18

reminds me of one friend i have, no manners, always ordering me to do different things, not asking, telling.  it came to a stop for a while when to told me to get him a beer.  after i dropped it a few times, with out him knowing :) i gave it to him...he took a shower =)  i said, "you wanted it, but you did not ask how you wanted it"

what i am saying is this, you never know just when the opportunity may come, but when it does, you can make him or break him...or

you could always get up and leave the restaurant, leaving him there alone, in a mad furry...that sure would get lots of attention, none on you, only on him for treating you badly :)

Answer 19

It may be difficult, but you should say something.  A girlfriend of mine used to chew with her mouth open, and talk, and it got so bad my family didn't want to invite her to eat with us.  A good friend should point out things that make others uncomfortable.  What he chooses to do after that is his deal.

Good luck!

Answer 20

be blunt to him about what's bothering you...tell him straight to the point....your friend needs some waking up to do to change his attitude and get some nice manners..you're his friend and friends tell other friends the truth even if it hurts them...growing up without a mother is not an excuse for his bad manners, it is just up to the person how they should learn from things and grow from it maturely.

Answer 21

Not much you can do differently than what you've been doing now.  If he has half a brain he'll pick up eventually.

Answer 22

who cares about being proper... I wouldn't...

Answer 23

how old is this person; if he has been doing this for quite a while; don't expect him to become polite all of a sudden-figure this-it will take just as long for him to learn manners as it took for him to learn impoliteness.Nuff said.

Answer 24

Tell him to stop being such a heathen or you won't go out with him anymore because he is embarrassing you.

Answer 25

Dont go out wiif hiim

Answer 26

I'm wondering if he was an only child. My husband is the same way and I tend to put the blame on his being the center of attention. Everyday I pray for patience with him.

Answer 27

Tell him that having "proper etiquette" when you two are out in public together will be the ONLY way he gets to go to dinner with you again!  If he wants to be rude and impolite, he can stay at home and eat a TV dinner!

Okay, I'm sorry that his mother died.  That is very sad.  However, he is old enough to know how to use proper etiquette when out in public.  (I am having to assume this is a grown adult or at least someone that is over 18.)

Answer 28

smack him