My husband and church?

Question

My hubby and I are both Christians but different denominations. Before we got married, we said that we'd take turns going to each others church - like we would attend my church at night and his in the morning (or whatever).

When we got married, we moved two hours away and we started going to a new church, which was one he chose. He hasn't been to a church of my choosing with me at all, and he doesn't have any interest in going. I've asked, but he just isn't interested.

I don't want to just start going to a new church by myself... I am just way too shy and I can't do it. I honestly can't. I want my hubby to go with me but I don't think we are ever going to agree on religion... I just don't know what to do. Help!

Answer 1

i THiNK THAT YOU SHOULD EXPLAiN TO HiM THAT iTSZ NOT GONNA HURT HiM iF HE JST TRy iT. BECAUSE HE DiDNT LiKE SODA UNTiL HE GAVE iT A TRy. SO YEAH TELL HiM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT iT AND HOW HE SHOULD HAVE YOUR BACK 10000 PERCENT NO MATTER WHAT AND THAT HE NEEDS TO SUPPORT YOU

Answer 2

Dont let him drive to church. You drive and take him to the new church, and kinfully and sweetfully say "my turn."

Answer 3

Forget about church. Church is a place where people who do the dirtiest of dirty work during the week go so they can pretend to be good Christians in front of the rest of the community. It gives them the comfort they need to go on doing evil for another six days, knowing they'll be 'absolved' again on Sunday. No thank you.

Answer 4

Look at all of the BS your religion is causing. I dont believe in god so I cant understand your issue.

Answer 5

Girl marrying a man from a different religion than you is like going to the beach while a hurricane is happening, what in the world were you guys thinking? obviously you guys were to in love to think about religion so work it out, you can't demand of him going to your religion of choice your church or either can he, so don't try to make a big deal of it now just go to the church of your choice and come home to the husband that you also chose.. Good luck.

Answer 6

well you have 2 choices, either toughen up and go alone and swallow some of the shyness, or dont go. You might want to gently remind him of his promise to you before you got married. religion can be such a huge problem in a marriage... been there and done that. and because of it, I no longer go anywhere...  

Answer 7

Ask god or jesus!

'way to shy' really means LOW SELF ESTEEM!

have god/jesus fix that for you or go here:

http://www.google.com/search?client=oper...

Answer 8

If religion was that important to you, you'd go alone. So in this case, it's definately clear that you don't care too much.

Answer 9

Your husband is not a very good Christian, if he in fact told you that you would go to each others churche's...  Moved or not he owes you the respect of you going to your church and he comming too.....  Shy is not an option when you worship God...  Next Sunday you go to a church of your choosing and trust me God will help you understand why you are shy and move you through this crises...  You husband is not a very nice man....  I wish you love...  God bless from Grant M in Pennsylvania

Answer 10

when a church that youre interested in offers a special class for women, invite a friend to go with you. Then ask if some of the outreach members will visit and give your hubby info about the church. See if he would be interested in attending a men's conference of a church that you like to peak his interest in your favor. Before i got married, i told my husband that i would not practice his religion nor would i raise any children in that religion. He converted to my religion before we got married and he couldnt be happier.  

Answer 11

YOU have got to worship when you know you belong, a bible based, [not one steeped in man made traditions] a bible preaching church.

Answer 12

You need to remind him of the truce you made before you married him. Remind him that you've respected his difference in religion, attended the churches he wanted to go to, and that you think he should do the same for you. Even if it's just the first few times, until you get comfortable. I know it's not fun to go somewhere new all alone, but I think you should give it a try! It may be better than you ever imagined... time alone, in a church you feel comfortable in, think about it!

Answer 13

the devil told you you cant go to church by yourself, God gives us strength you can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens u

u need to read cornthians and ephesians

Answer 14

Christianity isn't a religion; it's a relationship with Jesus Christ. Once you both get into that mind set, maybe you can agree on a denomination...maybe one of your originals... maybe something completly different!

This is something you should've dealt with (I mean really...not this "every other time" stuff) before you got married.  I was actually raised Catholic and my husband was raised in the Covenant Church.  I went to several different denominations during my college/young adult years. I wasn't attending anywhere when we met, and we got married in his church.

We've moved on to several churches since then; our only real requirements is that they need to have certain things (like a strong children's program, and I really like orchestra...so that they have one where we're at is a plus) and they need to teach salvation through belief in Jesus.  

Answer 15

Exactly why is best to marry in your own faith.

Unless it's a dangerous cult, go with him and keep your whole family in one church.  Bible says husband is the leader.  Sorry.

Answer 16

Everyone chooses to worship in their own way.  Most church attendance is based on traditions learned as a child. Some people find a quite moment on their patio to rejoice and meditate is very fulfilling.  Do what's best for your spiritual fulfillment and let him do what's best for his, because when the time comes....we all stand alone.  

Answer 17

I wish you had told what denominations you guys are because that would have cleared up a lot of things.  However, I can still tell you that God made you one flesh when you got married, and how does one flesh worship in two different places?  You need to attend the same church, and that probably means that you are going to have to go to his.  God will honor your obedience to submit to your husband (which is Biblical even if it makes you shudder) and it might actually work wonders in your marriage as your husband sees your willingness to make it work.  Good luck!

Answer 18

ask him to go for you and not for the religion. maybe he can escort you the first time and you can meet people and get to know the new church and be able to go yourself from then on.