My parents are adopting?

Question

My parents have been thinking about adopting a teenage boy. I have a brother who is 18, and a brother who is 6, and I'm 14. (We all have the same parents.) This boy that they're thinking about adopting is 16, and is really mean to my brothers, but nice to me. I hate him! How do I tell my parents that I think that they're making a nice gesture, but that this kid is a creep?

Thanks so much, every answer is appreciated!

Answer 1

Your instincts are right.

Your parents are trying to adopt "out of age order" which is not advised.

Have them do a little more research.

Answer 2

If you think about it, what your parents want to do is a really nice thing. The boy they want to adopt doesn't have a family, and you have a nice family willing to take him in.

What you need to do is sit down with your family and talk about how to welcome your new brother into the family. He's probably hostile toward your brothers because he feels like an outsider and doesn't know how to deal with that yet. It's going to be an adjustment for you guys but I'm sure you'll find your new brother fits right in after a while - and you'll have fun!

Answer 3

You need to tell your parents as soon as you can. You need to tell them that he is not right for your family and that he is mean to your brothers. If you don't tell them know you might be stuck with him forever.

Answer 4

tell ur mum that you are really happy that there being so kind and like the idea but he is actually  being mean to ur brothers and you rnt sure about the fact thatv his being mean to them and you dont like it.im 14 to.

god bless

xxxxxxx

Answer 5

Talk to him and your parents (:

Answer 6

Talk to your parents about how you feel.  Tell them about how this boy treats you and your brothers.  Maybe they can talk to him, and see why he is being mean.  

   This boy doesn't have a family and you don't know what he has been through.  I  know you don't this boy, but you have to think about it from his view.   Maybe if you and your brothers try to be his friend, he will start being nicer to you.  

   I would defiently talk to your parents, but you also have to realize that they are trying to do the right thing and giving this boy a family.

Answer 7

Tell your parents NOW how you feel. I know that alot of these people are telling you this is your fault you should get along. But we don't know this young man and what he has gone through. Why are your parents doing this and wouldn't be ashamed to take in a teenager just to make your own children miserable.  You really need to tell your parents and tell them they will be responsible for him until 18 and what ever he does. Look I'm not against teenage adoption it's just that I have a Friend that is a foster mother to teen ages and I always look to see if there is a yellow crime tape around her home for some of the kids she has are close to getting to the age where they will be in jail.

Answer 8

I am adopted, and i think that if i had to tell my mom that the guy was a creep thell them this, " Mom, you know, boys name, he is REALY mean, he picks on all of us, i think that its a bad idea that you do this, even though he needs a family, i think that it will be weird, talking about our past, he might get sad."  I was adoped at birth so, i dont have to worry about it.

Answer 9

You need to tell your parents that a family meeting is needed and express your feelings to them. Hopefully your parents will be equipped to resolve the issues. As other posters have stated, this boy has probably gone through alot and hasn't addressed his own emotional issues yet and your brothers may be on the receiving end. Talk to your parents in private. Your concerns need to addressed by your parents because you are just as important as anyone in the family. Insist that your parents listen to you and your brothers.

Answer 10

You're the creep.  Alot of older kids, especially teens, who have been stuck in state care and wanting homes and families to call their own usually have issues and baggage that sometimes needs help sorting through and understanding.  It's not your place to tell your parents to do or not do anything.  Instead of acting like a jerk about it you may try getting to know this kid and let him know it upsets you when he's mean to your brothers.

Answer 11

I think that he likes you so he's nice to you. I would stay back and don't let him kiss you even if hes trying to be nice step children seem to be abused. Maybe even malested just tell your rents how u feel

Answer 12

I would talk to your parents and tell them how you feel about the entire situation, give them the positives you see, and the negatives.  You can tell them that he is mean, but I wouldn't refer to him as a "creep" to your parents.  If your parents really want to adopt him into your family, a lot of things will change, including him, because he will have to learn to respect you and your siblings, and you all will have to respect him as well.  He could be coming from a broken home, and doesn't know how to respond the right way to being in a positive environment.  Adopting him though is a family decision, so give your input.

Answer 13

You need to sit down and try and have a talk with your parents.

This child doesn't need to be adopted into a family that doesn't like him - he's probably been through enough c**p.

(he probably had no say in being dumped by his first parents/family - and I'm sure this really isn't his first option - as most kids just really want to be with the parents that they were born to - in most cases - if that's possible)

You have to talk about this before they adopt.

For your sake - and for his sake.

If it would help - write down a list of what the pros and cons of the adoption would be. (meaning - what's the bad stuff - and what's the good stuff)

Have you known him for long??

Have your parents been fostering him already??

You need to get serious with your parents - and have a huge heart to heart.

I wish you luck.

Answer 14

chances are this kid is fostering with you?? also the reason that kid needs to be adopted is beacause his parents didnt want to care for him, so him being a "creep" is probobly because he has psycological problems, or was even abused...so your little "fantasy life" could be disrupted to give this kid a chance to have a loving home. get over your selfishness