My son needs help with behaver?

Question

my son never wants to listen to no one he goes to school preschool and cant sit still the teacher is always telling him to be good and listen and he cant sit still on the bus now he sits in a booster sit locked in he hits his 7 yr old brother all the time and thinks its funny i took him to the doctor and doctor said hes fine i thought he has adha i need help please tell me what to do we tryed everything

Answer 1

lookin up nanny 911 is a good idea. but maybe you should put him in timeouts and give him a good spanking every now and then. A lil bit of pain always teaches children.Start slowly takin things he likes away from him and maybe he will start realizing.

Answer 2

first of all, with grammar and spelling like that how do you expect your kids to be good speakers? second, all you really need is a back hand slap to the face. he should listen after that. hope this helps!

Answer 3

Do what i do.  

1. preheat the oven to 350.

2. cover child in flour

3. cook child for 15-20 for untill a golden brown color.

Answer 4

Try to get him on PSR (psycho social rehabilitation). if its really bad there is  IBI(intense behavioral intervention). talk to the preschool and see of they know how to have that arranged. if not contact social services.  the child will be assigned a social worker and they will work with you and the child to correct the behavior. there is a program that i really like called love and logic. http://www.loveandlogic.com/ check it out. some of there tips might help. check your local library for a love and logic book.

Answer 5

Most preschoolers have trouble sitting still, but if his behavior is consistently violent, and he never has down time, it sounds like something is going on.

First step, take a look at his diet. Cut out high sugar and processed foods. Make sure he's getting a good balance of the food groups.

Next, talk with your son. When he's hitting his brother, ask him why. Try to find out why he's so angry. Also, figure out what his favorite activities are. Some boys are just high energy - if he loves football, wrestling, and rock music, he's probably not going to sit down to do an art project at preschool. Work with his teacher to find activities that will challenge him, but that he'll enjoy as well.

Praise him for all the good he does. Compliment his energy when it's expressed appropriately. When we change our tone of voice or our language, sometimes kids really respond to it. Listen to the way you talk to him. It's so easy to get frustrated with a young boy, and sometimes it shows in the way you react. Make sure you're using a lot of positive language and a playful tone of voice. Save your anger and your "no"s for when it's REALLY necessary. If the negative attention isn't coming all the time, it will mean more when it does.

So compromise. If he can't keep his bedroom clean, let it be a mess - who is it really hurting? But when he hurts his siblings, let him know that that's absolutely unacceptable.

I agree with the other poster who said not to be too quick to diagnose him. He's too young for a label, and many doctors will drug your kids just to get the money - and what does that do to the child? I don't want to get too touchy feely here, but we're killing our children's spirits when we poison them with drugs to make them sit still at a desk and do worksheets.

Anyway, good luck!

Answer 6

Have a conference with your sons teacher and find out more about his behavior at school.  Is it the same at school as it is at home.  Is his behavior like this everywhere?  You can try simple reward programs at school (stickers every 30 minutes) to assist in redirecting his behavior.  Can you hold his attention when you try to have a conversation?  How does he reacct with other kids?  I just went through this with my son and we had a counselor sit in with our conference and she really had some great ideas for redirecting his behavior.  After a 2nd conference with them we all decided that it was time for a dr opinion.  I've tried whoopings and grounding and time out and taking everything completely out of his room except his bed.  I've even promised him that we would do this or that if his behavior was good...to no avail.  After meeting with his doctor this week we are going to have testing for him done.  Some say that attention disorders are genetic...his father was this way and to this day still has problems.  I'm by no means jumping the gun or directing you to have this done.  You need to meet properly and have all of your information together.  Exhaust all options.  A good questionaire that you and his teacher can fill out is called a DECA.  This will help pinpoint concerning areas.  From one mom to another, Good Luck!

Answer 7

u sound like ur in a crisis!

heres a couple thing u can try

cutting of some sugar, it can help

make sure he has good freinds, they might be encouraging the behavior

try sitting with him and talking about it. He might be botherd by something

gather a couple of parents who have kids in his class, they might have more ideas.

call nanny911 or supernanny

Good Luck!

most importantly do NOT hit him, it will just make him feel worst and he will be even more chaotic!

Answer 8

the most effective punishment is proven to be.... whippin the **** outta that boy ..

Answer 9

That doesn't sound normal for a preschooler if it's all the time, instead of just a bad day. I would go to another doctor for a second opinion, hopefully a pediatrician.

Answer 10

I have learned some good techniques from watching Nanny 911 and The Nanny.  See if you can find those shows on TV, at least you'll know you are not alone.  The main thing is to be sure you have reasonable expectations, be sure he understands what you expect, and then tell him what reward/punishment he can expect.  Being consistent and following through seem to be the most important part of making your plan work.  Sometimes, ADHD is suspected when it is really a lack of structure/schedule.

Answer 11

Exorcism

Answer 12

Okay, I know that this was a joke on Southpark, but I seriously think if you read the writings of Cesar Milan, it will give you a new understanding of how to teach your child discipline. Take it all in with a grain of salt.

Answer 13

Definitely try to find an early intervention center who will check him out.  I live in a rather poor small town and even we have one or search online to try to locate one you can at least email.

Answer 14

If your son is so out of control that he must be locked into a booster seat than you have a more serious problem than a simple 'whipping' will fix.  However, you will need to provide more details in order for someone to really give you some good suggestions.

How old is your child?  Does he ever interact appropriately with adults and children? Is there an adult that he does obey?  Is he on track with language and self-help skills?

Don't give up. If consistent discipline doesn't help, than you need to go further. Find a therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist who works with children and ask that he be assessed. If he shows any delay with speech or self-help skills, than he may qualify for a complete assessment from the local school district to see if there is something else going on.

Also, look around and see if you can find a parenting group or class that might teach you some more ways to discipline or work with your child. The preschool he goes to might know of some.  Watching SuperNanny is also a good idea. Pay attention to how she handles time-outs and the naughty chair.

Good luck and don't give up. You must get your son's behavior under control now, before it gets worse and before he gets older.

Answer 15

Maybe before you become a parent, you should at least be smart enough to be able to spell behavior.

Answer 16

First of all it is spelled Behavior and send him to military school.  If that doesn't work then you on your own.

Answer 17

Set clear rules for your son, such as,

Be gentle, no biting, hitting, kicking etc

Be safe

Be respectful (this will take some explaining)

and then give consequences if he breaks the rules.  Let the punishment fit the crime.  I use time outs for preschoolers.  Short ones are effective.  I generally give one minute per year of age.  Time out can be in a certain chair, or in their bedroom.  I just say something like "We don't hit in this house.  You get a time out."  If they don't go on their own, I gently put them there. The first few times they will test you,  screaming, crying, getting up early, but if you just tell them firmly, ie "You need to sit for two more minutes." they will usually obey.   I believe any consequence you choose will work, as long as you always give a consequence when a rule is broken, and do it right away.  

Give him choices whenever you can, so he feels like he has some control over his life, ie, do you want PBJ or  turkey for lunch, or, when you are mad, do you want to tear up old newspapers, or stomp your feet (hay, it's not hitting)

Talk to his teacher, He/She should be willing to enforce the same rules at school, with similar, or other fair consequences.  

Also,  a preschooler should not (and realisticly can not) be expected to sit still for more than 5-10 minutes.  If the teacher will not cooperate, or has unreasonable expectations, find a new school.

As a female former preschool teacher, I hate to say this, but if you are looking for a new preschool anyway,  try to find one with a (good) male teacher.  

Also, limit the amount of sugar he eats, and get him tested for allergies.  

Sorry for the long winded answer.  Good luck.

Emilie

Answer 18

This a hard one to answer because there are a few things to address.  I would get on the Nanny 911 forum and ask questions or look for a specific forum for Toddler behavior problems.

Answer 19

only one thing to do... BEAT HIS BUTT and dont say sorry it may hurt but do what you have to do

Answer 20

I wouldnt diagnose your kid with anything so soon. Something as simple as his diet could be a problem if he cant sit still. We, as americans are so jumpy to diagnose our kids and selves with so called problems. Wait it out a little bit.

Answer 21

and you need help with spelling

Answer 22

please girl you need to beat his but.that will help.