Need help despritly. Girlfriend problems?

Question

i have had a Girlfriend for 9 weeks now and i love her... she has just said she has to finsih me because i am being immature,and i was going away with the army..im not now tho..im not going in. what do i do now i know i need to show i can change. i can.. i want to show her .. i just want her back sooooo much .. i love her..someone please help me

Answer 1

You told her you love her after 9 weeks?  Geeze no wonder she bailed.  Move on.. you'll love the next one.  Just dont tell her so soon and next time she might stick around.

Answer 2

You were going into the Army and now you are not and she's bailed?  Looks like she was a "Benny Bunny"--a woman who gets with a servicemember and gets him to marry her so she can get the benefits and hubby's paycheck--and party while he's deployed.  You lucked out, kid.  At least you don't need to worry about returning home after a year in Iraq to a four month pregnant wife (and you took your leave six months prior...)

Answer 3

It's only been 9 weeks and you are already saying you love her? What are you doing that she thinks is immature, get more details from her so you can improve it for the next relationship

Answer 4

1.  nine weeks is not that long of a time.  if you love her, tell her...but it won't be the end of the world if she doesn't come back

2.  hopefully you did not already commit to the army prior to changing your mind.  they will come looking for you.  if you did change your mind, i hope that you did not change your mind simply for her.  not worth it.  

3.  i am taking it by your tone that you are young.  as a result, you are supposed to be immature.  however, you cannot change her perception of you.  work to be a mature person for yourself, not for this woman.

Answer 5

It sounds to me like your girlfriend does not share the same feelings with you as you do her. Because if you love someone they will take you just for who you are even if it meant you had to inlist into the service for a job choice. I understand that she could be worried about that due to the war going on and doesn't want anything to happen to you if that is her case. If it was and now you decided against it she should not stop caring for you because of that. If your girlfriend feels that you need to make some changes in your life for her to feel differently about you then talk with her and find out what you need to do to make things better. You cannot force anyone to love you back if they don't have the love within them to give you but you could offer to slow down on some things emotionally and ask to be her friend if anything else. In time she may see that your heart is in the right place with her and maybe come back around to the full circle of things with you? Don't be pushy and just let her know that you care a lot about her and keep a calm voice when you speak with her.

Answer 6

Changing your life's idea of joining the military over nine weeks.

Get over it dude, I just hope if this hurts and I'm sure it does. Tell yourself your better off and move on with getting your life together.

Who knows, if she sees you in time you'll be a stronger better person full of self confidence.