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Question

My son is friends with a kid that by himself is good, but, he has no parental supervision and when he has trouble at school the school calls and leaves messages and mails notes home (he lives with his uncle who works 12 + hours a day) but this kid erases messages and the uncle never sees the notes. The school things are like ISS for cussing or skipping one day. Since my son has been friends with him they have almost had the police called on them because someone suspected someone of stealing something. I've had 3 incidents that police were called even though nothing was done by them. What gives? They didn't, but, it happened again last night. I've cut my son's time in half where this kid is concerned but, on Friday nights they go out and this kids has noone to answer to. My son thinks making him come home at 10:00 is "g*y". This boy's mom lives with her boyfriend in CA and dad lives with his girlfriend in NY. I guess he feels he has nothing to lose. Teens....what do you think?

Answer 1

how old is your son? i am 19 and i had a 10pm cerfew until i was 16 then it moved to 12, i think your a doing a good thing by trying to keep your child out of harms way. i think you should tell your son not to hang out with this kid i have had a very hard life also. i have been through , death of small brother, parents divorced, step dad got my little sister, i lived with my mom we got evicted from hom and was living with friends on and off for two years, i am happy to say that i have never tried drugs and i have always tried to be helpful yes i wasent the best in school grade whis but you have to have respect for ppl and thier things you are doing a good thing i would even possibly take that other child out of the pic completly if bad behaiour continues it is your parenting skills that build a child.

Answer 2

I honestly dont think cutting his time with his friend will help him much because his friend would most likely just find a way around that and if his friend has an influence on him then he may find a way around it too.. If I were you I would try to get in contact with his uncle and try to talk to him about it if thats almost impossible because of the time he works maybe it would be a good idea to have the boy come over and sit down with him and your son and have a talk with both of them then maybe he'll feel like someone actually cares about him and he doesnt need to act out for attention? Idk I hope this helps some!

Answer 3

This is what sadly happens and it is because of his family life. Bad things happen to people with bad family lives and its sad that they have such a bad life and have to go through c**p like that too. Its not their falut, it maybe their choice but they wernt taught what was right and what was wrong. They do what they feel makes them "fit in".

Its really sad.

Answer 4

How old is he?

Answer 5

Yes you are very true,

also its just a stage they go through trying to be cool by stealing or staying late with friends, he will grow out of it but you still have to talk to him about it he may even be going through depression because you and your husband split up, i would just talk to him ether on the phone or face-to-face.

Answer 6

personally, i love sleep, so i don't know what the problem is about coming home at 10. maybe you could try to contact the other kids parents? or, if you say the kid is good by himself, consider letting him move in with your son for a while if the uncle is ok with that. You wouldnt have to worry about your sonstaying out with that guy because they can both just come home. I had someone live with me for a while when their parents were gone and it turned out fine because both of us had to follow the rules of my parents, it might work but if youre not comfortable with that kid i wouldnt do it

Answer 7

How old is your son?

I'm not a teen, but I was in trouble all the time as a teen, due to the company my parents allowed me to keep.

In my opinion, it's a mistake that you allow your son to continue being friends with this troubled child. Re-read your letter. Erases the school messages? Gets in trouble at school all the time for cussing and skipping? Police repeatedly being called on them?  And your response was to cut your child's time with him in HALF?

Are you afraid of your son? Are you afraid to parent him? Does he have a father that can do what needs to be done? You need to forbid him to see this "friend." If you don't, there will be consequences you can't even imagine.