No s*x since miscarriage?

Question

I had a miscarriage a few weeks ago now and my partner and I have not had s*x since. Find it hard to bring up the subject but it is constantly on my mind. The pregnancy was not planned so I have thought it could be because he doesn't want to risk doing stuff until I am on the pill again as we don't want to get pregnant again for atleast a year but he has not said anything. He like me doesn't really like to talk about this sort of thing. I just wondered if anyone else has held off between miscarriage and their next period. Am just a little worried he has just gone off it or me altogether!! By the way, we do live together and he still shows lots of affection in every other way.

Answer 1

why dont you ask how he feels?

Answer 2

Well you said it ya daft narna !!!

He is just giving you some room to heal ...and I don't mean just physical ......You need to speak with him and let him know how you feel to help you both move on

Answer 3

I think it's a case of you have to try and talk to him so he knows how you feel and you know how he feels and what he's thinking, even if it is a subject you don't talk about very often.

If it's about the pill, try and go back on it as soon as you are able to, if you feel comfortable doing so.

I'm sorry about your miscarriage, but everything will work itself out, given time.

Answer 4

He's giving you space to heal and recover.  Maybe he is hurting a lot.  Sit down and talk to each other and bare your feelings and thoughts to each other.  Thats what true love is about, not just the physical side of it.

Answer 5

Just talk to him about it, but you can always use a condom before your next period.... sorry about the loss

Answer 6

There's no other way around it, you have to talk about it.