Oh no! Did I cause this?

Question

So there is this guy I met at my friends party and he danced with me and stuff. When he went to get me some food, another guy walks up and dances slowly with me. Before I could even back away from him, he was grinding with me! I was telling him get away and I was trying to run when the other guy comes back from getting me food. He was telling the guy to back the **** off and dont mess with his girlfriend! Did he mean me? Well Ill answer that, YES! Then the mystery grinder who I later found out was a guy named Ray, yelled at my "boyfriend" that we were just dancing. My "boyfriend" who is named Ben, started cusing at Ray! I tried to stop it all but I feel like I caused it all. Lter after things settled down, I got with Ben and I was happy with him. Until I found out Ray and him were best friends until the fight over me! I feel terrible! Did I cause this?

Answer 1

No, you didn't cause this.  To me, it sounds like you tried to prevent anything bad from happening by trying to get this Ray guy off you. Ray caused all of this and brought it on himself for being completely immature.  Sounds like he was super jealous of Ben and was tried to p**s him off by completely disrespecting you.   Definitely don't feel like it's your fault, this Ray guy is just a complete bunghole.   This Ben dude sounds nice, so I'm sure he knows it's not your fault, either, and isn't mad at you.