Ok, adoption question now?

Question

ok well, I really want a baby brother or sister and my parents are not really "old" (they're in their 40's) and my dad had a vasectomy so what do you think about bringing up the subject of adoption? Any good websites with pictures or info? Thanks in advance.

Ps: I know it's my parents choise, i'm just asking.

Answer 1

That sure is a better plan that wasting money on something useless like attempting to reverse his vasectomy.

Answer 2

You should talk to them, but don't get your hopes up. My kids will be grown and (hopefully) in college by the time I am 40 and 45. There's no way I'd want to start over with a newborn.

Answer 3

You might ask them about possibly becoming foster parents.  My parents did that for a while (and I am the oldest of 6 kids ... all "natural" sisters and one brother) and they still had room for more.  The only drawback with having foster children is they eventually go back to the parents or other family members in most cases.  But, if you really want a younger sibling, you may present this idea to them.  Look up what you can on the internet to get information, even call a foster home in your area and speak to someone who can give you more particulars.  You will know that your family is helping someone.  Also, just getting involved in a program that helps children (homeless families, church activities, etc.) may help you to fill that "void" that you may be feeling.  I know!  I have one son who is all grown up and moved away.  My husband and I do the Children's Story every Sunday at our church.  There is one family who is a little on the disadvantaged side ... they have 3 children and we sometimes take them to the movies, out for lunch, to the museum, on small shopping trips, have taken them to the circus .... We don't have a lot ourselves but we do what we can when we can.  They really seem to enjoy it and it helps ME tremendously!  You seem to have such a caring heart, I hope something great works out for you!

Answer 4

what exactly is your motivation for having a younger sibling?

regarding asking your parents to adopt so that you can have a sibling: honestly, adoption is a very complex and emotionally involved process.  since your parents have chosen to end their fertility (vasectomy) i think it's a clear indication that they are not interested in parenting any more children.  after all, THEY will be the ones responsible for the child, not you.

i would seriously look into mentoring kids. or starting a baby-sitting service.

Answer 5

I hope your parents do not adopt, but if they do the kid will NOT be your brother or sister. A legal document does not change DNA.

Ask for a puppy.

Answer 6

Oh good luck! I BEGGED my parents to let me have a little brother or sister for the longest time. But no was always the answer. They finally had me get a dog and asked me to be quiet about it. :(

I think you should just casually tell them while they are both in the room that you would really like a younger brother or sister and wanted to ask if maybe they would consider adoption. Just try to do it kindly and not forcefully at all. Expect that they will probably say no, but you could list all your reasons why.

I hope you had more luck than I did!

It's funny because now that we are grown up, I think both my parents regret not having more kids. You could mention that the number 1 regret of people over 50 is that they didn't have more children. :)

Answer 7

Just in case your parents don't want to adopt, there are plenty of things you can do. My daughter who is 15 volunteers to help a family in our community with their child who is special needs. She really enjoys doing it, the little boy loves her, and the family gets a little "down time".

Answer 8

I have seven cousins that are adopited so asking to adopt is a good question you can help your prolems and help the kids find a good home.

Answer 9

For a couple that is that old is not able to have kids then your best bet is to adopt. My parents adopted 9 kids and they started at 30 because my mom could not have kids after she had me. I would just recommend that you sit down with them and tell them that you want a baby brother or sister and then tell them that you found out information about adoption and that you think that they should try it. Now I am going to tell you that in order to adopt there are numerous steps that your family will have to go through. You will have the FIA come out and look at your house to make sure that it is suitable, then you will have to become a foster family which is where you have kids come and live with you and then they may leave anytime that the FIA finds them a family. Then when you get a baby boy or girl that you want to keep then you start the process of adopting them. You can find pictures at this website.

Answer 10

I agree with the others who have suggested trying to find a Big Sister or another volunteer opportunity in your area.  Adoption is a wonderful thing, and you can try to speak to your parents about your feelings, but don't be surprised if they reject the idea.  It is expensive, takes time & energy, and many people do not want to adopt or take on more responsibilities at that age.  However, there are many volunteer organizations that would love to have your involvement.  

Good luck to you.

Answer 11

You may want to talk to your parents and express to them on how you feel.

Answer 12

Their are plenty of big sister programs try that. Most couples by the age of 40 don't want to start over. But since you have a need for a sister or brother, help someone in the same need you have sounds like you would be a good sister.

Answer 13

I like the answer that was given  to you about taking care of a child yourself.

Your parents have had it.  No more kids for them.

They are happy and love what they have.