Old married couples....?

Question

dont you kinda wish you could go back in your early marriage, before kids,when you and your husband or wife were struggling and knew you could do anything as long as it was together....my husband told me today that he loves our life and our children but he misses just us.....

Answer 1

Wise and thoughtful man you married there. He's a keeper although I suspect you'll agree on that.

Answer 2

If I had just had one wish, it would be to do it all over again. I was 27 when I married and had plenty of time to "run around" before. We eloped after dating 90 days. Everyone was so excited about a G-baby.  Well, the first one came 7 years later. So we had 7 years, as we call it b/c. before children. It was great but, I can't put in words how much pleasure we have had with the Girls.(15 mo's apart) They come home for the summer and we have had a blast. I never dreamed that you could love anything that much. It's the only way that I can relate to the love that God has for us. Take 007 for a short trip and as soon as you leave the house, you both will be talking about the Kids. We always do.

Answer 3

Look to the future.  One day the kids will be out of the house and it will be just you two again.

Answer 4

awwww it's so sweet he misses when it was just you two. Maybe plan a weekend alone with him to bring back some spark, I would be thrilled if my hubby wanted me all to himself. Sometimes we lose ourselves in daily life. Spend some alone time with him. He still loves you and that is a wonderful thing.

Answer 5

Yes that means you have to find time to reconnect...I tell my husband if there was not any love between us to start with then there would be no children...the best example you can give your children are two parent that are truly in love with one another and show it in appropriate ways.

Answer 6

Well my husband and i dont have any kids and of course i love our life together now but sometimes i wish and it would be cool to go back to when we were younger and just starting out together as a young married couple.

Sometimes i kinda miss those early yrs.

Answer 7

No I don't! No regrets! I love my children and who they have become. I love the good and learn from the bad. If I go back now and lose all of those experiences would be devastating. Sure we had hard times, but we always did it together. We still do!

Answer 8

We are not old (I am 22, he is 36)

But we do miss our life pre-baby. It was easier to spend time together. We could just pick up and go out at night or go on a weekend getaway. Now there is bed time to work around, lol.

Answer 9

That time has come for me - our youngest just graduated from college & moved to Florida. Our two oldest have been married for a while now & are expecting babies soon. My husband has made me promise that I will enjoy visiting the grandchildren, may even babysit once in a great while, but will spend most of my free time alone with him, recapturing "us". As much as I love being a mom,I have to admit it has been great getting back to just being "us" again! I guess it's just one of the rewards of sticking it out through all the rough times we've encountered over the years. Anyone who's been with the same person as long as we have (over 35 years) will understand that a shared history makes "us" time even better now than when we were first together! And yes, EVERYTHING is better now!

Answer 10

While we love our kids it wouldn't be human to not think those thoughts. My husband and I are 6 years out from our kids being grown and we do look very much forward to just him and I.  But for now we are 250% committed in being their parents and raising them right.  We do take some time each year for "us" as we deserve it and the best thing we can show our children is a happy marriage.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Old married couples think, "Was that it?"

Then they wish they had married someone else.

Answer 12

No.  

Answer 13

Ohh......sighs....I suppose I get nostalgic for the old days once in a while, but right now what I'm mostly looking forward to is the time (in 8 years or so) when my kids are all grown up and out of the house, and it's just us adults again, and we have the money and the paid vacation time to travel and goof off.  I already have tenative plans to begin brewing beer and making wine again at home, for example, and to take some tours of various local vinyards.  There's also a really interesting deal here where you pay a hundred bucks or so and then go cook a couple of recipes with a well-known chef and you end up learning a few recipes and having two weeks worth of dinners frozen in your freezer.  

You know?  The truth is that we aren't the same people we were before we had kids, and I'm not sure I'd like to go back to the person I was then.  I like who I am now, and I like who we are now even more.  

Answer 14

I have been married for 18yrs now.....Whew its been along road....

But there is light at the end of the tunnel. I understand what he means..We used to have relations anywhere in the house at anytime..Now we have been restricted to the bedroom for quite awhile..We miss being spontaneous..I used to work out of town allot but made excellent money. but gave it up to work local so I could spend more time at home..But even with all the things we miss about being childless. We know that we will miss having them around more..Two have already left the nest and sometimes its so quiet you could hear a pin drop...It just doesn't seem right...

Answer 15

I remember waking up, making love. Getting the paper, reading it together in bed. Making love again, showering together. Going out for breakfast. This was just about every weekend. I do miss things like that. But would I trade my life now for that. No, I wouldn't trade my kids for any of that. But I do miss it.