Painful s*x during last trimester ?

Question

I'm 33 1/2 weeks along now and i am finding s*x particuarly painful and uncomfortable. Its not so much a lubrication thing, but more that i feel really tight down there! Since i have been pregnant i have gone 'off' s*x and we dont have it regularly. I have also tried to do perineal massage and that too is quite paiinful- although i am trying to keep going to loosen it a bit. Has anyone else experienced this? And if so how did you deal with it?

I am really worried as i am scared that i will tear quite badly if it doesnt loosen up.

Answer 1

Thank god I am not the only one with this problem!!!  s*x right now is my definition of mortal h**l (and not because of my fiance either, he's incredible that way).  I am sure that this is all to do with the baby (for both of us), and that it will be back to normal after the babies are here.

In your situation,  I wouldn't be surprised if your body "loosened up" as part of the labouring process.  I hear that the key to not tearing (or tearing very little) is to use heat on the area beforehand, and not push before your body is completely ready.  If you get urges to push, don't.  Your body should direct you.  When told to push, ease the baby out with slow, deep breathing and patience.  Hopefully, you won't tear.

That I'm aware, perineal massage doesn't guard against tearing.

I hope I've helped! good luck!

Answer 2

girl i'm scared for u

Answer 3

its time for you to stop having s*x if you feel its painful  

Answer 4

trouble is since you have been pregnant you lost all s*x desire and your ain't getting hot at all.try to relaxe cause it's all in the mind.

Answer 5

have you told your partner, if its painful I wouldn't be doing it, he has to understand, your going to be in enough pain as it is in a few more weeks, we went through something similar, so we just stopped until after the birth

Answer 6

I had a similar experience.  I think I was just really sensitive - nerves about the upcoming birth had made me very tense and hyper-sensitive.  I wouldn't do the massage if it's painful (personally, I found it very uncomfortable).  I did tear, but it wasn't anywhere near as painful as I thought it would be.  I know it's really hard to do, but the best thing is to relax and get as much rest as you can.  When the time comes, listen to the midwife - if she says don't push, then don't!! That's the best way to avoid a tear.

Answer 7

you should be fine....s*x is recommended especially during the last trimester to help induce labor