Passive aggressive question..?

Question

How can a passive aggressive person (me) change for the better? I kinda feel bad because no matter how hard I try I am still a category passive aggressive. Advice anyone ?

Answer 1

Become actively aggressive and I'll marry you baby!

Answer 2

How do you feel when you are aggressive? Are you comfortable when you are aggressive? If you feel sad, then you are likely to change and improve. On the contrary, if  you enjoy by being aggressive, it may take some more time to get experience in life.

Answer 3

First off you have identified a problem, that's the first step in solving it.

Talk with others with similar who have overcome.....

I have quested spiritual growth and together with a plan of action I have come a long way. Maybe thats an option for you?

Remember, we can't think our way into right action, we must "act" our way to achieve. Come up with a plan of action that works best for you.

Answer 4

If you see any of these passive-aggressive tendencies in yourself, you can overcome them in the following ways:

    * Remove your blinders. Acknowledge your anger, fear and desire to control others. You can only control your choices and no one else’s.

    * Determine how your hidden anger is being expressed, and develop healthier ways to resolve it.

    * Work on becoming independent and interdependent with others by developing a cooperative spirit.

    * Take full responsibility for your own behavior, and learn how to make good choices for yourself.

    * Refuse the easy way out of painful situations.  Grieve your losses.

    * Practice using willpower and self-discipline by being willing to delay gratification.

    * Overcome selfishness by getting involved in the lives of others.

    * Work on developing assertiveness skills such as:

           a.  Using “I” rather than “you” to state feelings or problems;

           b.  Being brief, clear and direct in making requests;

           c.  Taking time to think through a request before you respond; and

           d.  Learn to problem-solve.

You can overcome passive-aggressive tendencies if you are willing to persevere and relinquish old patterns of behavior.

Treatment of this disorder can be difficult: efforts to convince the patient that their unconscious feelings are being expressed passively, and that the passive expression of those feelings (their behavior) inspires other people's anger or disappointment with the patient, are often met with resistance. Individuals with the disorder will frequently leave treatment claiming that it did no good. Since the effectiveness of various therapies has yet to be proven, these individuals may be correct.

Passive aggressive disorder is said to stem from a specific childhood stimulus (e.g. overbearing parental figures, or alcohol/drug addicted parents).

Bottom line is you probably won't take any of my advice anyway, AND how will helping you benefit me?, so why should I give a care?

You like that last line - now *that's* passive aggressive.  

Seriously, good luck.