People in the delivery room?

Question

I am having 4 people in the delivery room. After I deliver him, I am guessing that everyone waiting outside will gush in.

So when they stitch me up, are all those people still going to be in there, even when I deliver the placenta? I really don't want that!

Also, Is everyone going to be in there when the nurses are showing me how to breastfeed?

Answer 1

real life is not like the movies. There is not a whole family tree waiting with bated breath for the baby to cry for the first time. My husband has always been the only support person in the hospital room with me. When I had my oldest son they let my aunt in the room after the birth, but they asked first, and made sure I was decent. When I had my c-section with my daughter my husbands aunt wanted to "be with him" while he was in the OR with me, and the nurses would not let her in my room until like an hour after the birth. With my youngest son they did not even let my mother in the room until I was transferred out of my delivery room and into my postpartum room.

My friend had a rough delivery and ended up having a c-section. she would not even let her older kids ( 16 and 18 years old) come visit her. I had to go see her for legitimate business and they had a sign on her hospital room door to check with the nurses station before entering the room. They checked with her before letting me near her and her son.

Answer 2

It's all up to you. Those people don't have the right to just gush in the delivery room while your legs are still in the stirrups... tell the nurses ahead of time that you don't want them in there until you're stitched up, cleaned up and covered up. They'll protect you. When it's time to breastfeed just ask everyone to leave. A new baby is always exciting and everyone wants to be in there but that doesn't mean you have to give up your privacy- you're still human! Good luck!! =]

Answer 3

That is TOTALLY up to you! Sweetie, this is your day to be a world class jerk if you want and tell them all to GET OUT.

Know that they'll be stitching you up RIGHT after delivery, and for extended family and friends, it would be a little easier and more enjoyable for everyone after a few minutes, when they've got the baby cleaned and done all their tests, and you can cover yourself again :) They'll understand!

No one else has to come in until you give the ok. Good Luck! It's so amazing!

Answer 4

have in there who you want in there.  i had 2 with my first 3 with my second and 2 with my third.  i made sure they called before they came up.  i nursed all 3 of mine.  my father in law walked in right when i was feeding my third one and i quick covered up but, he was on his way to work and forgot to call.  i would have them call you before and let them know how your feeling or they can just wait till you get home.

Answer 5

You can tell everyone to leave after they come in to peek at the baby.. No one said all these folks had to be glued to your side. You have to stand up for yourself...

Answer 6

you dont need the whole family in the room with you just your husband and other kids should be in the room with you and of course the doctor and the nurses  so they can deliver your baby good luck  with telling them NO!!!!!!

Answer 7

They won't gush in..it won't be allowed.

Answer 8

You need toask the doctor  i think the limit is 2 people it is not a day of fun and games you will cry you will scream words may come out of your mouth that will amaze you you might pee on your self or have bowel movement  no other people will not rush in you will need time to rest labor is not easy it may last 1 day or 5 days do u really want a bunch of people in the room

Answer 9

It is up to you actually.  The hospital here allows up to 3 people in the room during labor and delivery but then after that it is up to mom how many stay in there.  They recommend that visitors wait until mom and baby are in their own room not in the delivery room before they visit.  The hospital i had my second son in wouldn't allow visitors in the delivery room just the 2 people mom picks to be there for delivery.  You can let them know right at the beginning that you don't want visitors for a couple of hours after giving birth.  Just let them know what your preference is.

Answer 10

I only wanted my husband in the delivery room. Like someone else pointed out, they stitch you up right after you deliver the placenta. If you give strict instructions to the nurse, they should usher people out before you are stitched. BUT, the nurse will be focused on taking care of the baby... cleaning, APGAR, warming him. And my nurses threw everyone out of the room when it was time to work on breastfeeding. I didn't even have to ask. When I went to my child birth class, they gave me a birthing plan. I fill out all of my requests right down to music, pain relief options, and whatever else I wanted. Don't be afraid or shy to tell the nurses what you want. It's their job to make you happy and comfortable. I told my nurse that I wanted no one but my pastor coming in while I was in labor to pray for me. My pastor brought another couple from the church and the nurse nicely told them that I wasn't up for any visitors. I just wanted my pastor to pray over  me that I would have a safe delivery and healthy baby.

Answer 11

You can tell the dr's and nurses not to let anyone in till you are ready.

Answer 12

It is up to you, no one that you don't want in the room has to be there.

Even if you don't like the doctor, there are other doctors. It is your day, and it is all up to you. Just tell them that you'd prefer for them to wait until the doctors are finished with you.

Answer 13

Who are these "everyone waiting outside" people? What makes you think that people will want to sit in the waiting room for hours or even days while you are in labour?

As far as I'm concerned, the delivery room is for you plus whoever is supporting you. One, maybe two, people. Nobody else is at the hospital at all. After baby is born, when you are ready (probably at least an hour later), somebody goes to make some phonecalls to say baby is here. Later that day, more likely the next day, people can come visit.

I can't imagine even having four people at the hospital with me to give birth. It's not a family social event. It's an extremely personal occasion for you, the baby's dad, and maybe your mum.

Answer 14

Not if you don't want them to be.