Please Read/I am so Confused!!!?

Question

I am in love with a distant friend and my jealousy is starting to depress me.

This all began through an Indian social network place,

I never expected anything more than casual friendship...maybe a little mischief here from time to time. But nothing that touched my emotions, until I came across this guy named Pankaj. We started out innocently...at least I did....

I wanted to know about his world. I've always been fascinated with anything foriegn. That was the intrigue.

No man had been so sweet with his words. We would chat for hours, distorting our sleeping pattern. I liked how he boosted up my self-esteem...called me loving names. Then things got sexual. Being the way I am, I'd never imagine I'd be so explicit. Pankaj was lusting like mad. I began to soon feel used. What can come out of this stupid internet thing? I told myself each time he said "I really love you."

His reasoning was that s*x was part of his affection for me.

Months later, my skepticism got the best of me.

This is a glimpse of it:

pankaj: thrs ths panjabi gal Heer Kaur

pankaj: frm Chandigarh .. the very same place frm whr i had my first serious relationship and infact the same university too...wha a coincidence

pankaj gandhi (8/26/2008 11:01:49 PM): She has been insistin me to visit her frm past 2 months constantly

pankaj gandhi (8/26/2008 11:02:02 PM): i ve bn refusin makin one or the other xcuse

pankaj: since i am chkin on her being really honest to me

pankaj: if she is

pankaj: thn i wil probally c her

(he barely tells me this when I mentioned that a guy from high school has been calling me to go out. I honestly don't like him

So I told Pankaj this)

This makes me question his "love."

I start sounding serious...which he really hates

lol

He replys

pankaj :here we go again with ur stupid asumptions

pankaj: i seriously love u

pankaj: but u wont realise until its too late

pankaj if u cant c my real care

pankaj: mayb its sold smwhr nd u cn get it by payin fo it

I get tell him this

"I'd rather waste my money on something that last longer"

The idiot goes on that I can't tell the differences between like or love and that I'm going haywire...when he's only been intimate with 2 people..according to him.

How can I not react this way, when he's telling me about a girl he's planning to get serious with (even calculating eachothers birthcharts). She's indian and so is he, and he must follow tradition, I suppose.

I hate it when he claims he loves me

its mostly sexual.

then he comes up with

pankaj: u r too good fo me actually

pankaj: u deserve someone even better

We came to a final agreement, to "prove" his so called Love for me.

He's willing to chat normally....

I know dear reader what you are thinking:

This girl is really really stupid

Answer 1

37.

Answer 2

I don't think you're stupid at all, I just think you've gotten involved with a very complicated person; and should think about whether or not you should continue entertaining his idea of "love".

He says you don't know anything about the difference between like and love; when it seems to me that you're actually being very sensible about the whole situation. You seem to realize the seriousness of love, and how it's something that needs to be meant as well as said.

From what I've read about this guy, I think he's s******g around with you. Of course you know him better than I, but I think he's bored, maybe lonely, and has been exploring what it might be like to "be in love".

If it's a friendship that you truly value, then keep talking to him; but maybe it would be good for you to go out and meet men who live in the same country as you, men who you have a better chance at having a real relationship with.

Even if he is telling the truth about this love, do you really think a long distance relationship would be good for either of you? You'd constantly be wondering if he'd been seeing other women, and there'd be an empty feeling of not being able to come home to the man you're seeing.

I think you deserve better.

Best wishes,

xx

Answer 3

yeah...im lost too

Answer 4

sorry, but i am totally confussed................

Answer 5

idk if its just me but the conversation parts like confusing?

like whos pankaj ghandi??? sorry.. haha