Please explane hormones?

Question

my wife is 6 months pregnant with our second child. she is being straight up a *****. don`t get me wrong i love her with all my heart but she is being nice and sweet to everyone but me. everything i do and don`t do pisses her off and she starts screaming at me and saying all kinds of hurtful things and lately she`s been way more controling over everything in my life. i tried to take charge but it ended up with her screaming and throwing things at me and my little 2 year old girl doesn`t need to see or hear any of that. my question is to women. what does hormones make you go thrue that is SOOOOOOO bad that your man must hate his life and fall in love with going back to work for a brake from you? please nice answers. i know i probably pi*ssed some pregnant women off but i don`t mean to.aparantly i`m really good at it.

thanks for reading

Answer 1

Contrary to popular belief, pregnant women *can* control those obnoxious hormones. I've been through it three times, and almost done with my 4th... I haven't been an angel to my husband, but I've been better, and recognize when I need to STOP... And, your wife acting like that---throwing things at you, and screaming at you, in front of your daughter---is not acceptable; that is over-the-top... I don't care if I get thumbs-downs; it is what it is, and it's excessive... When she's calm, talk to her about it, and remind her that her acting that way in front of your toddler, is bad. She needs to hear it, pregnant or not... Pregnancy hormones can hinder a woman, but they can't control her. (Good luck!!)

Answer 2

Hormones really make women crazy.  You can't control her actions but you can try to modify yours.  No matter how she is acting toward you tell her how amazing you think she is and how beautiful she is.  Clean the house and help with your other child too.

Answer 3

I'm not pregnant, so it sort of disqualifies me, but I'll answer anyway.

When I get PMS, I get mean, and especially mean with my bf.  This is because I expect him to understand me, and when he doesn't it hurts 10x that of a stranger.  Also, the things that I get upset over are the same things that upset me when I'm not PMSing, but I just let them go at those times.

My advice to you, is to very seriously look at what exactly sets her off.   You may be able to change a few things (if it's your jacket not hung up, etc.)  Despite how hard it is to be soft with a screaming lunatic (lol) try to hug her more, rub her feet, etc.  Finally, some time she's calm, ask her if there is anything you could do differently, or stop doing, to help her.  Be very careful to ask in a humble tone and appear in all ways to be genuinely interested in making her happy in any way you can.

Try to get someone to babysit a little.  She might be feeling tired and stressed in additon to feeling hormonal.  If your money situation is okay, get her a spa package for pregnant women, hair cut, pedicure, massage, etc.  While she's away, clean the house, and make dinner.

Finally, you could also tell her that you realize you're not doing enough, but you don't want to make things harder for her in any way.  Could she give you a list, daily or weekly, of things that would make life easier for her?

This will all be hard to do.  It's a lot of work and it will feel unfair, because you normally don't have to grovel to enjoy safety in your home.  But hormones are outside her control and she might already be doing all she can to keep them in check.  If you're genuinely interested in making things better at home, try all or some of the above suggestions.  

How does it work for us?

On a normal day, my bf would tease me mercilessly, offer terrible solutions to problems and tell me no matter how bad I thought something looks that it looks great.  And I grin and bear it.  When he gets the PMS warning, he doesn't tease, listens to my problem without offering solutions if he doesn't have any good ones, and suggests practical alternatives to what I'm wearing if he sees my eyes tearing up.  Finally, he'll make dinner and insist on giving me a massage.  For my part, I try not to cry in frustration or get angry at anything and I usually end up crying over how sweet he is, before we make love.  

It's all in how much you're willing to do to get the results you want.

Good luck and congratulations on your new addition

Answer 4

im sorry.....i really dont know why we do this to the man we love i feel sorry for my husband every once in awhile i cant even imagine what he is feeling!! i know this doesnt help but i will let you know that i do feel sorry for him every once in awhile so maybe she does too

Answer 5

I'm pregnant and have awful mood swings I haven't thrown anything yet lol but I do yell sometimes.  I always realise it afterwards though and apologise to him... you should talk to her on a day she's in an OK mood if you can and even if you don't bring up anything to start another fight... just start the convo with...."It seems your very unhappy with me lately what can I do to make you happier"  hopefully that will work... if not... sorry about your luck!!