Please help!!.. 10 POINTS!!?

Question

well im 17 right now, im going to be 18 this year in Dec. 14th, and i really just wanna move out of here and go with my bf because my parents arnt letting me see him no more till i turn 18 and we are not planning to wait!,,, i live in Washington, and well i was wondering what would happen if i ran away, could they make me come back? can my parents put my boyfriend in jail? i really need these answers quick, please.. and again im 17 and my bf is only 18 (he was born on Jan. 1990 and i was born on Dec. 1990, so hes jus 11 months older) could the police take him to jail if my parents say that we hav had s*x? im pretty sure they cant b/c they have no proff and plus i also heard that its not 'rape' b/c im not under 16.. i just need some advice and answers to these questions, thanxz..

Answer 1

STAY HOME!!!!!

you will want to slap me now.....but years from now you will remember this answer I Guarantee you!!!!! Do not leave.  It all seems nice now.  take time to grow up and have fun!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Stay Home.

Running away to be with your boyfriend will not solve anything.  Where will you live?  Living with his family or friends will not last long.  How will you support yourself?  Working for McDonald’s is a dead end.  You are probably saying you love him and he loves you.  If that is true why take you away from a family that loves you and only wants what is best for you.  Parents at times may not understand you or drive you crazy, but there is one thing no other person will do for you.  They will Love you unconditionally, and they will lay down their life for you

December is only 5 months away, and time will fly by.  If your boyfriend loves now he will still love you 5 months from now.

Answer 3

once u turn 18 ur parents cant do anything about u running away bc ur not a minor anymore..

but honestly, i would not run away for a boy.

no matter how much u want to see him

why dont u work things out with ur parents.

tell them u WILL leave if they dont let u see him.

they wont wanna lose u so maybe yall can compromise to something.

p.s

running away for a boy is the stupidest thing you can do.

trust me.

Answer 4

Trust me and don't run away. Wait until you turn 18 to make your decisions. I have been in a similar situation and it is not worth the trouble. Even if they can't charge your bf with rape, they can order a restraining order. If you do run away, they can get you back by calling the police and they can easily say that your bf encouraged the decision. As long as you are under 18, your parents have more say in court than you. It's just easier and safer for you and your bf if you obey your parents wishes for now.

Answer 5

Wait, stay home, buy a vibrator.

Answer 6

Well, it's obvious why your parents are so concerned. You are not going to like my answer, but leaving right now is just plain stupid. Creating all this drama and turmoil for the sake of it may really be something you get a charge out of. You have only 164 days until you are an adult legally. Wait the 23 weeks, then do whatever you can afford to do. The smartest thing to do right now is for you and your bf to live at home, follow the rules and get jobs. You need to save every cent you can. Deposits for rent, utilities, etc can mount quickly when you start your own life. You will need money for food, transportation, insurance, etc. It might be time to quit thinking like a little kid and start planning on how to be an adult with all the priviledges and responsiilites it entails.

Answer 7

You will be 18 soon enough. Then you can do whatever your heart desires. But like it or not, you are still a minor and still bound by your parent's decisions. Sorry, but that's life.  Tell you what. Give your parent's until Dec 14th to be the parents of a responsible teenager. Then do as you wish. You get to be a kid only once, but you will have your whole life to regret your choices as an adult.

Answer 8

Hi

I understand what you are saying and the urgency that you feel. However, you could really devastate your parents by doing this. Do you realize how afraid they will be? It may seem as though they are being unfair at the moment but this can all work out.- it takes communication.

If you were a parent what would you do if your baby ran off and you could not find her? 17 -25-35 -no matter the age, you are their baby girl no matter how old you are. They have been in your life since day one and will be there until they die. Don't do this to them -please.

Slow down -call a counselor and set up a family meeting with the counselor if you feel uncomfortable. A compramise can be made. In time as you grow you will see that running away really isn't worth hurting the ones who truly love you. Boyfriends will come and go -trust me.

Answer 9

While running away with your boyfriend may sound like a lovely and romantic idea, I would highly recommend you stay where you are, wait thing out, and do your best to negotiate between now and December.

Running away will opening yourself, and your boyfriend, to a world of problems if your parents choose to use the police to get you back since you are (legally speaking) a minor.

As far as the consequences to your boyfriend should you run away with him, it is unlikely that the police will get involved on a "statutory rape" ground.  As you are well aware, the age of consent in Washington is 16.  Clearly, you are over that age.  So there is not much that can happen on that front.

With that said, you are a dependent of your parents (whether you like it or not).  You are a minor and they have broad powers, as parents, to act "in your best interest."  Should you run away, your parents could take legal action against your boyfriend for kidnapping.  While you may be consenting to going with him, as a minor you (yet again, legally speaking) lack the capacity to do so.  And if you cross state lines a federal case may be made against your boyfriend, which as you can imagine would not be fun...

Bottom line, I feel your pain.  Families suck and they never understand.  You need to keep trying to talk them into letting you go.  If you run away, very bad things can happen, guaranteed.  Worst case scenario, you are free to leave in December....

Best of Luck.

Answer 10

Yes. Because you r under the age of 18. You may not like my advice, but running away is not the answer. It only will make matter worse. I know you probably have heard this before but if this young man loves you as much as he may tell you he does than he will wait. Let put a question on your mind, what happens when you run away and find out it not what you expected? Then what. That when the matter can get worse... Because it not going to be what you think. Seen and heard to many times what can and has happen. I am not trying to scare u, but JUST WAIT!!!!! U have only a few months to go. Best Wishes.