Please help! Immature mother...

Question

Okay, so my mom is like really immature... Today I got my haircut and you can see it's hideous. Anyways, it started like this :

My mom woke me up really early for no reason, which got me pissed off. And then, she made me go outside with her to take some people somewhere. Anyways, moving on. We were at the salon and my mom wanted me to cut back to my old style wear I had a short du with tied inner layers. So then, I saw this really cute hairstyle in those books and I wanted it. So then my mom told the hairdresser something and the hairdresser totally messed up my hair... It's like short now... And then while the hairdresser was cutting my hair, my mom kept telling him to cut it shorter... I told him no and then my mom kept saying "cut it shorter, cut it shorter!" After it was done, omg... It was so hideous. Then, tonight I asked her why couldn't I get that hairstyle and she was ike "What are you? A w***e?".... I got really pissed. It's not even her hair so why did it matter. So when I was drying my hair, she told me to fix it to the hair style I wanted and I got REALLY mad this time so I stopped talking to her. (Because if she wanted me to fix it to that hair, why wouldn't she just tell the hair dresser to do that... seriously... And I'd suggest that would make me a bigger w***e for fixing that hair myself?) So then, she started yelling at me about the hair. IT'S NOT EVEN HER HAIR SO WHY DOES IT EVEN MATTER?! I'm 15... Like seriously. I don't need my mom making my hair look like how she wants it... She let my older brother get his hair how he likes it. So then I, I stopped ignoring her for a while and asked her "Why don't you admit you're wrong for once?" and then she started calling me all these stuff.. Omg... Idk what to do. She never admit she's wrong, she always thinks she's right... AGH... And she even hits me and yell at me for no reason... You could even ask some of my contacts especially this one contact of mine who I share things about me and my mom... She's really awful... Idk what to do... People tell me to call the cops, child support, etc. etc... Idk... Please help.

Answer 1

well if the case really is hitting you for NO reason....then call cps

Answer 2

Ignore the ignorant people that don't have immature mothers. I have no idea what you should do about this, because I've been struggling with something very similar for many years now. I just want you to know that you're not alone. My mom also thinks she's always right, and always makes decisions for me and speaks for me, even if she has no idea what I want. One time at a doctor's appointment (she came in with me, I'm 18, so that was already annoying) she was telling the doctor what I was feeling, even though I had never spoken to my mom about it, so she was really just making it up. I could give you tons more examples, but I don't have the time for it. We fight a lot, and usually I somehow end up giving in and just start agreeing with her, because it's so exhausting trying to get her to see my point of view. But you must know that my mom has never ever hit me for no reason, she only spanked sometimes when I was little, but never since I've grown up. You might want to consider talking to someone you trust about this, maybe not the police yet, but a close relative, like a grandparent or aunt/uncle, they could help you get through it. I wouldn't advice hitting back, because that'd be you stooping to her level. I'm a sort of "target" for my mom too, because I actually listen to what she has to say. My brother, even though he's a good kid, is always on the computer and never caring about anything else, so he ignores pretty much everything my mom tells him, and she thinks he's like the perfect child or something.

Just btw, if your display picture is of you with your new haircut, it doesn't look that bad at all :)

Answer 3

if she hits you, then call a childrens helpline.. they'll help alot

Answer 4

If your mom hits you and you have proof of it (markings, pictures, videos, etc.) then I'd say call the cops! What she did do was stupid, though I honestly think you are making a bigger deal out of it then it really is (no offense, I'm just telling you my opinon). If you can, though, call the cops and explain how and why she hits you, though leave the hairstory out of because they'll find that stupid and you'll me made into the immature teenager!

Answer 5

Stop complaining about your "oh-so-terrible" life. It could be worse and she probably knows she is wrong, but no one would want to admit that to their 15 year old daughter.  

Answer 6

Awwwww...

It's ok. Your hair looks fine! You should see mine from the back lol. Your mom is being a jerk, but guess what the good news is? Soon, you'll get to move away for college and she won't be able to control the things that you do anymore. So you can get your hair cut in any way that you like. Does that sound good?

P.s. Your hair really doesn't look bad at all. :)

Answer 7

idk im asking the same thing about my dad

Answer 8

sounds like your mom might have something wrong up here*taps her own temple*..you might want to get in touch with the cops yourself and get witnesses that have seen how your mother treats you

Answer 9

OMG dude...I can't believe someone else's mom does what my mom does. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. When I got my extensions, my mom was literally screaming. She was threatening to make me move back to Nevada (I live in CA for college)...she kept hitting me and told me I look like a s***k, super ugly, like a dirty mexican housekeeper (we're not even mexican), etc. It was worse when I lived back home. My mom never lets things go just like your mom probably doesn't. Again, since you are still 15 there is not much you can do.

As horrible as your mom may seem, are there any good points of your mom? Do you see why she is acting like this? My mom is from Egypt, and she was raised super strict, and she thinks that the way I live is too relaxed. I 'm not allowed to do pretty much everything. But I do it anyway, and have to lie to her.

My mom still abuses me in every way: emotionally, physically...even mentally. This summer I spent a month with her and she would wake me up from peaceful sleeps to start screaming about something minor I did. It seems like no matter what you do right, they will never notice it. My mom would hit me and give me bruises. This summer we spent it in San Francisco and because I didn't agree with her to change my phone number she was hitting me in front of everyone and making me cry...and she wouldnt stop for the rest of the day. And everytime I tried to explain what I meant and it was all a misunderstanding, she would scream, "NO IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT!! YOU CAUSED THIS SCENE!" It had gotten to the point where the more time I spent with my mom the more psychological problems I would get. The more I had to think of what I would say to a therapist. I actually considered going to a psychiatrist to help sort out all the abuse from my mom.

I learned to remember it's not me, it is my mom. You should have that philosophy too. Your mom is the crazy one, she needs help. She is so worried about you becoming a "bad" girl that it is making her mentally sick and this is how she acts in spite of this.

Remember: there is a logical reason behind all of this. She has no excuse to act this way, but there's a reason why she is. And it's NOT you. Please remember that. Just figure it out!! Be polite, and every time she throws tantrums like these, just ignore her. Agree with her, even if you don't. Shut her up somehow. Don't argue. People like this always want the last word.

Try and find some compromise with your mom. Sit her down in a good mood and explain to her that you are growing up and you respect her decisions for you. But you must choose the way you want to look. I mean, of course don't go overboard with provacative clothes or makeup or something, but still try to respect her.

I promise you one day you will be away from your mom's demands. You will have a good relationship with your mother one day. This is coming from someone who literally went through absoulte h**l with her mom. Now me and my mom can have some sort of common ground even though we are so different. Unfortunately I cannot tell her even a little bit of what I do in my spare time except study and talk to my friends (girls only lol). But still, you will come to the point where your mom stops bothering you about stuff.

It sounds like it might take your mom awhile, but it will happen. I hope this helps you at least a little bit!! :) Good luck, remember, gradually try talking to her.

Answer 10

dont call child support its a bad idea.  TRUST ME.  my niece did that just because my brother slapped her once and she got token away and had to move to virginia and it was awful he couldnt see any of his other kids/wife for MONTHS.  so the rest of his kids and wife moved inot our house for the time beeing and almost all of them cryed thereselfs to sleep at night.  No family is perfect but u can really **** ur own family up without even trying for something as little as getting hit a couple of times.  al parents hit there kids.  so really think about what ur doing before u do it.  now the niece that was supposibly being abused lives in virginia and will never see her mother or father or sisters again.  and ontop of that she will never get to meet her newborn brother.  its sad and ******.  im 15 too and i have problems with my parents but trust me calling child support is STUPID and will make u miserableeee!

Answer 11

my mom like that 2 she thinks she is like the best she goes and talks **** bout some1 driving bad but then she do it and call the other person an idiot or something for honking and she acts like she owns the road just b like ayyy u need to shut up ***** cuz im gettin sick of u and u aint god so u cant do and say wut u want then run so she dont hit u lol

Answer 12

aww that sucks just talk to her politly and just say mom listen i dont like the way ur acting and i know ive been acting wrong also(just say that and she will start feeling bad and kinda understand) but i really dont like my new hairstyle next time could i please just get it the way i want it? never start screaming or swearing just always keep ur cool act the way you would want her to act and hopefully shell catch on and act more mature xD

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good luck xox