Please help me! Depression...

Question

I'm 15 and I don't know what to do. I think I may have anxiety and/or depression, but I don't know. I often feel mad and overwhelmed. I don't really remember what it feels like to be happy. I get annoyed easily and lash out. When I went to NYC the other day I was freaking out (not in an outrageously conspicuous way) when I was inside a small and crowded cafe. I have trouble sleeping (it takes me 2-4 hours to fall asleep) and for some reason I always feel guilty. I also am lethargic quite often and I don't have much of an appetite. I know why I'm depressed though- my step dad is an alcoholic. Also, I want to get away and live with my father in a different state, but my Mom isn't letting me and my Dad is tight on money now. I don't even think I will be able to visit him in the summer like I've done for the past 8 years. I didn't tell him about my step dad cause my mom didn't want me to. I also miss my friend that live in my Dad's state cause I haven't seen them for a year. If I'm already having issues now, when school starts and I have homework and tests, I'm afraid I'll have an anxiety attack.

By the way I've been like this for the past year but it's getting worse. I was supposed to move in with my Dad last year but my Mom wouldn't let it happen.

And I cannot talk to a therapist. I talked to like 5 in the beginning of the year but my Mom never brought me back because she didn't like what they had to say. And she dismisses my tiredness and everything on my asthma

Answer 1

Immediately begin to learn any musical instrument you can get a hold of.

Music is the healer.

Music therapy is your best bet.

You just need to make the instrument make sound. You will get better at it every minute you play.

You will find solace there, you will be able to meditate while you play. It will heal you of your mental anguish.

Music is also a confidence builder. You can accomplish more with the knowledge that you taught yourself to play.

Give this a try and I guarantee results.

Answer 2

<check with local attorney for legal advice>

Tell your Dad to file for custody and get a Guardian Ad Litem or child's attorney appointed - they can do mental health tests and make reports to the court.

you are probably depressed b/c of alcoholic step-dad and the frustration of NOT going to live with your real dad.

If Mom won't co-operate, Dad's going to have to pony up some coin adn get you through the court system.

Answer 3

people with asthma are actually more likley to develope depression. Just a random fact...anyway..you need to stick up for your self. And for your needs! If you feel you need a therapist, dont let your mom stop you from going or not getting you phyceatric help when you need it. Thats called emotional negletion that can cause you even more problems in the next 1..2..3..4 etc years

Your mom doesnt sound like shes being a responsible parent. A little selfish if you ask me. Do you want to live with your dad? Is it a better/healthier enviorment for you? Then find a way to move there. Tell your dad whats going on. When it comes to mental health money is no matter.

Go get the help you need!

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Answer 4

A small appetite and lack of sleep are symptoms of depression. My Mums an alcoholic so I know how it feels, and how hard it is to convince them to stop. Its very sad that you are not able to see a councilor, I suggest if you have a school nurse who comes your school you should see her, and she may get you some help. Its also nice to speak to friends, share your feelings with true friends. Set yourself time to relax, try having a hot bath, doing some yoga, reading a chapter of a good book and listening to some calming music every night, this will also help you to get some sleep.  

Answer 5

yea i know how you feel ive suffered from social anxiety and clinical depression for a bout 6 yrs now. best thing for you to do is talk to your mother about it and see if you cant set up an appointment with your doctor... or if you dont feel comfortable talking to your mom... or you dont feel that she'll understand talk to an councler at school. just let someone know...because it sucks feeling angry and unhappy all the time when you could be enjoying life.

hope you get well soon.

ps. sertaline/zoloft really does work wonders. after about the first week of being on it..ive noticed a big change in my attiude towards things... i dont get mad at little things anymore... and i am able to talk to ppl i couldnt before.

Answer 6

Okay, so your mom is little-to-no help with this.  You need to talk openly with someone once your school starts.  Go to your school counselor and explain everything.  Don't worry about your mom, because it's her job to take care of you and if she isn't doing her job then you MUST reach out to someone else until you get the help you need.  Trouble sleeping is a classic sign of Generalized anxiety disorder and depression.  I wish your mom would get you this program that I got for my daughter- it has helped her alot.  I listed it below under source.  Don't give up!  Talk until SOMEBODY listens!  

Answer 7

You and your mom should sit down and talk to your dad. Ask him if he wants help or if he thinks he can do it him self let him. tell them you know he is a way better person then he has been acting. and another thing if i was you try not to worry about everything just every night before bed pray to god.

Answer 8

When you get busy, you get better.

You need to immerse yourself in activities that give to others, and in the end, you will feel better about yourself. For example, volunteer for any charity or event to which you feel as if you would like to devote your time, or call around to nursing homes in your area and ask if there are any residents who never receive visitors (there are many many in every facility that never see any relatives or loved ones). Then go visit one or two of them on Sundays -- or any other day -- and read to them, sing to them (don't worry, even if you THINK you CAN'T, sing, you can :), play a game or do a puzzle with them, or just ask them about their week. You will find that there are treasures just waiting to be discovered, and they are within YOU :)

You want to get better or you wouldn't be asking for help. I hope you realize you are a child of God and He loves you; you are worthy of being loved, and loving yourself is a good start. If you give to others, you will start this wonderful healing process and you'll feel better soon!