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Question

My Father passed away in Febuary. The Christmas prior he had bought me new wine glasses, he had done lots of research and bought these special glasses specific for the wine I like to drink. Now that he is gone I have a hard time letting anyone but myself handle the glasses and I feel uncomfortable using them. I know this sounds silly, I think its silly when I think about it.

My question is, since I seem to have an attachment to them should I just put them away or should I get over the fact that someone could potentially break them, they were bought with the intent to be used

Answer 1

Condolences.  I don't think there is anything wrong with how you feel.  You have a great emotional attachment to this gift, since it was his final Christmas gift to you.  If you want to keep them all for yourself, then do so. I don't think your dad would want you to let everyone else use them if it pains you so.  He wanted you to enjoy them and think of him every time you get them out.   I think you will feel more comfortable using them yourself as time goes on, but may not ever want to share them.  That's OK too.  You should just keep one out at a time for your personal use.  I know I am doomed to break things, no matter how careful I may try to be.  If you are accident prone as I can be at times, you will have a few spares.  Or, if you need to keep them put away until you're comfortable, that's acceptable too.  It's all about how you feel.  And most likely someday you will want to get them out and share them, but not just yet.  Maybe for special occasions or something.  If it were me, I think I would just save them for myself and maybe share them with someone super special, not just anyone.  Kind of like the fine china many people keep.  Good luck with your decision and I hope you find some peace.  

Answer 2

I would put them away and maybe get one out to use yourself if you feel like you have an occasion that you want to make feel a little more special.

Answer 3

I understand what you are feeling and where your comming from.

I personally would use the wine glasses but i would try to keep 1 or 2 of glass put away somewhere safe, so that you can still keep them and let them remind you of your father and how much he cared enough to research the wine glasses for you. Theres no reason to have a hard time using them, im sure he would want you too but for your own comfort and assurance as a way to keep him with you; you can keep one or 2 of them to remind you of him.

hope this helps..

good luck

Answer 4

Not knowing your father but you do what do you think he would want? If it is that sensitive to you then just use one when you are alone and want to have a glass. Get a new set for company.