Potty training advice?

Question

My son has been using his potty now for about 14 months. He is just over 2 1/2. I don't want to rush him but readig some respones I wonder if I am causing the delay. He will often do a wee and a poo in the potty and has started taking his nappy off. However he oftens like to sit on the potty playing trains and not doing an awful lot. He has a drawer full of Thomas underwear he loves to sort and try on. Great you think

The problem is the whole tell us when you need a tinkle or poo. He just wont wont tell us. We have tried knickers many times and it just gets to the point where he is upset and crying and then we revert back to nappies as he never ever keeps them dry for more than 10 minutes. We now have pull ups but he wont tell us even now when he has done a wee. Even if he is straining you'll say have you done a poo, are you doing a poo. NO NO NO. Even when you've checked and you can see it he denies it. IT's just confusing as it seems like there is a brick wall over the whole issue!

Answer 1

Get rid of the potty, put his pants on him and make him use the big toilet with a child's seat! You will still get a couple of accidents, but that's just the way it is! He will feel like a big boy when he goes! Obviously help him on the big toilet and even if he says he doesn't need to go, still sit him on it so he gets used to it, eventually, he will know when to go and let you know so you can help him on it until he manages to sit on the toilet himself! this worked for me, and my son was dry at nearly 3 during the day and night time! Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Just dun plz push your child...let him take his own time..dun RUSH!!

plus boys take more time then girls..so chill out...relax..Eventually he will get trained!!!

just go with the flow...

every child moves on his own pace...dun compare ur child with other kids who get trained at an early age!

One sweet day he WILL get the hang of it:)

so relax n stop worrying!!

Answer 3

get a small step to put beside toilet and a toilet seat, hide the potty, let him wander the house bum free or with only the underpants and a t shirt he will eventually go on toilet, if you see him holding his bum or standing still looking down rush him on toilet, by time he 3 he should go automatically and tell you he needs toilet, when he does go even a little dribble, give him cuddles and cheer when he hits 3 and a bit start a reward chart with stars and reward him do this with a behaviour chart and knock the tantrum troubles out.

Answer 4

yikes!  Our daughter did really well for a time and called everyone we knew when she went potty in her toilet!  Then a while later it's like she lost interest.  We did everything, had her go sit on the potty the same times each day... rewarded and praised... we did it all.  Finally we realized that the pull ups did not allow her to feel wet.  We had her pick out some big girl undies and then put them on her.  She either went on the potty or in her undies BUT she was able to tell how gross that was!  She then started making it to the potty.  The doc said you should never punish in potty training only use positive reinforcement.  Let  him feel wet.. he won't like it and he may re-think making it to the potty.  As long as he is aware of when he goes is the key... you really don't want to push it before that.  She was not fully trained until shortly after turning 3.    We also told her that when she was potty trained we would have a party for her... she loves parties so that was a goal.  

For our daughter we praised her so much that she started clapping for us when we were in the restroom lol... now that was priceless!  

Blessings :)

Answer 5

i do not have kids but i am a nanny! i just potty trained a 15 month old and a 3 year old in one week! buy cool cute underwear let them pick them out! get one of those little cute potty seats and if you put a diaper on them at night ONLY!!!!! put the underwear one first the diaper so they still get the underwear feeling! and i took both boys every 30 minutes! it was kinda a game! make it fun!! you will feel real silly but it will be fun!! i sit down in the bathroom and pretend to push with him !! (p**p p**p) that is! and if none of that works make them sit there till they go they will go !! then make a huge deal out of it!!

Answer 6

My fiance and I have found that the best way to get them to recognize when they have to go (AND to get them to tell you about it) is to put the kid on a schedule. It will take patience, though!

We make our two year old go

-when he wakes up

-around noon before nap time

-sometimes when he wakes up from his nap

(provided he wakes up with a clean diaper)

-and after dinner before bed

When I say 'make' him go, I literally mean sitting him on the potty and even making him drink water until he has to pee. The first couple of times it took up to 30 minutes. Now, it takes under ten. He just loves feeling accomplished after using the potty 'like a big boy' and we make sure to always reward him.

Joseph is already getting adjusted and used to the schedule and will even begin to tell us, "I have to pee now."

Best of luck.

Answer 7

Have you tried the supernanny view on things, she makes up charts where when he lets you know he moves up the train track closer to a treat. you explain the general gist of things to him and he'll find it fun to let you know so he can move thomas up the train track. it will seem less upsetting for him and more like a game, start the track off small and gradiaually amke it bigger so he has to work harder for the treat as he gets more use to what his potty is for!

Answer 8

My son is like this at times too. He will be 3 in August.  Is he constipated?  I've been thinking I shouldn't make such a big thing out of his poos.  just change them and move on.  We he starts straining you can rush him to toilet.  Also if he poos in nappy shake it into toilet. Let him watch.  Say things like bye bye poo.

Answer 9

i struggled with potty training my son, finally did earlier this year and he just turned 4!

my son would use the pull-ups and change himself but wouldn't go in the toilet, i tried everything and i mean everything...

until someone suggested i let him go naked..and i told him if he didn't pee in the toilet i would spank him. i felt that he knew...i don't know if threatening will work at his age or not...my son finally got the hang of going in the toilet..i would reward him with a piece of candy when he went on his own..i did this for a few days and it cured it right up...then he was afraid of going # 2 in toilet so i started making him take off his underware again until he pooped in the toilet...

Answer 10

i think constantly changing from diaper to underwear and pullups can be confusing with my daughter everytime i go to the bathroom i have her go if she sits there nd does nothing then get up but theres no plying its on and off it they think its a chair then why go and dont make  big if he has an accident but when he goes into the potty but i found really helpful if she went in the potty that would be our daily topic like remeber when you went potty and mommy was so proud she has done super but it all takes time