Pregnancy urges?

Question

okay i am not saying my age but i will say i am a teenager

i come from a broken family and live with my mother,i have delft with aolt and i am very mature my boyfriend and i want to start a family i myself think it would be a great idea i am an A B student and know what i want dont say things like your just a kid,dont do that, i just need some advice.i plan on having a child and what will i have to know in order to properly take care of it.i plan on having health insurance for it and taking care of it as if my life depended on it.i'm not poor or anything and my family is well off i will be able to support it i just want to start my family early.

the main thing is i need some advice on what to expect from all of you mothers.please dont leave hateful comments,i am very responsible,and know what i am getting myself into.

Answer 1

Ok, where to begin i was a teenage mother i got pregnant at 16 and had her at 17. It was so hard i came from a broken home as well. Which is all the more reason to want more for your babies. Now im 22 with a five yearold i love my daughter so much. I left her father cause he was abusive. It is so hard please really wait. Some people make it look easy but its not at all. You need to be pround and confident so you can set a good example. As fo your boyfrriend whats the hurry? If you love eachother then you have have all the time in the world. I thought nothing coud go wrong, until i was 17 with a baby no help and so much kaos. Really think thats a life your talking about bringing in this world.

Answer 2

That is wonderful that you are a great student and very mature. However (and I know that you wont want to hear this) I believe that you should wait a few years. There are a lot of factors you need to consider when having a child so young...

Do you want your child to also be bought up in a broken home? There is a good chance that your r'ship with your boyfriend (despite it being great now) would be under strain and possibly head towards a breakdown if a child was put into the equation, you would miss out on many years of your own life, being a teenager. You can forget about parties, hanging out with friends, watching your favourite TV shows, going to the movies, going out for a nice dinner, having coffee with friends, having the latest fashions etc because all of your time is invested in your baby. I have a 10month old, married and I am 26. Let me tell you it is difficult to do even the smallest of things. Going to the toilet when you want to, having a shower can seem impossible sometimes (it seems that baby knows and will want something right then and there). You are constantly tired (my baby still wakes up to 5 times some nights), even though I am a stay at home mum. In some ways you feel disconnected from the rest of society, and all you talk about and think about is your baby. You can loose yourself and who you are. Going to the shops for what would take you 5 mins to get a loaf of bread takes 1/2 hour by the time you pack all the dummy's nappy's etc for 'just in case' and you get eye's rolled at you when your baby cry's....

I personally miss 'being me' and having time to hang out with friends and doing things for myself. I miss sleep in's, bubble baths, pampering myself, shopping for myself, reading, and having lengthy conversations with my friends about what we did on the weekend etc. In saying that it is the most wonderful thing to be a mum and wouldn't trade it for the world. I am thankfull that I did get to have time prior to baby to be a little irresponsible and silly. I think that it has shaped who I am today and I look back at those times with very happy memories. I think that you should wait...enjoy the time with your boyfriend and have fun getting to know each other and yourself. Make the most of your time before you have a baby.

Answer 3

If your out of high school, then go ahead and have a baby if you feel good about it, but if your not out of high school, don't have one till you are.

Answer 4

I'm not a mother, I'm a teenager, but my mom had my sister when she 16, but, she was married. I'm not sure where you come from, or if your mother would approve, but if you're not 18, and you're boyfriend is older than 18, he could get in trouble, so be careful of that. I want to start my family young as well, but I need to finish college, since my mom had my sister so young, when she was in her 30's with me, it was hard because she had to go to school to make sure she could support her four children. Also, if you have enough to just get by living just the two of you, it might cause a strain on your relationship, and you wouldn't want kids AND a stressful living situation. Wait it out a year or two more, see how things go, I know whats its like to be in love and want to marry someone, but just like pregnancy urges, you might have fun urges too, and that wouldn't be fair to your child.

Answer 5

Fight the urge! You told us all this stuff but I didn't hear anything about you finishing school and having a loving man who you've been with and wants to have a baby. I haven't heard that you have a car, or your OWN place to stay! I hope you have all those things together before you go and have a child!

Answer 6

Ok I'm not going to give you the typical response everyone else is giving you on here, just because you already have probably thought about what they are all saying, and have decided this is what you want to do. So I'll just answer your question!

*Having health insurance is right up there at the top of the list, because it is SO expensive, so I'm glad you are already planning that. Make sure you have it BEFORE you get pregnant so that they cover your pregnancy.

*Try and have all the necessary items you will need before the baby gets there (crib, clothes, diapers, bottles, lotion, wipes, stuff like that).

*Pick out a pediatrician and a hospital you want to give birth at

*get a book on pregnancy ("what to expect when you're expecting") is amazing because is really helps guide you through your pregnancy and delivery and gives you ideas on what to expect and what is normal

*be prepared because it really is a 24-7 job, you no longer are first in life, that baby is.

Good luck to you!