Pregnant moms with other children...?

Question

my 6 year old son has become very clingy to me since I started showing( I'm 25 weeks witha girl) I can't even drop him off at kindergarten because he clings to me crying. So his dad will have to drop him off for the last 2 weeks. Do you think he is worried about me being pregnant & not giving him all the attention? Once he could feel her kick & saw my belly (like 2 weeks ago I started showing more) he became this way. He helped choose her name, tells her he loves her to my belly & he sings to her but he just clings to me. Thanks

Answer 1

Assure him that you will always love him, and he will always be your first child.  Right now, he doesn't understand pregnancy at all, and might be worried about your belly swelling.  Jealousy is rolled into the equation.

Ask him if he has any questions.  Explain things simply, like instead of saying the technical terms of where the baby comes out, just simply say, it's kind of like going to the bathroom.  By putting it into something simple, where he understands it in a way that is not threatening, it will ease his mind.  Inform his teacher of the situation, to make sure he's doing fine in school, and not acting out.  It might be better if your husband also asks him if he has any questions, and above all, don't do like my friend, and let him watch childbirth on TV, where they see everything, including the pains, the blood, etc.  This can traumatize a youngster, and make him think that it is going to hurt you (more than just labor pains).  Good luck, and congratulations.  I wish it were me pregnant!

Answer 2

i'm 27w 5d, and my 3 almost 4yr old has become extremely clingy also.  i have to admit i love it, because he was starting the whole independent phase and now he wants to be with me again. we let our 3yr old go to the "big" ultrasound with us, and have talked about the pregnancy with him a lot, because i assume i will have a jealous little man once the baby gets here.  we are having another boy and i have asked my son what he wants to name him and he usually says "gordon" (from thomas the tank engine- and no we're not going with gordon!!).  i try to get him to talk to my belly, but he's still young and just blows on my belly, which i figure is still away for him to start "talking" to his new brother.

we always tell my 3yr old he is going to be an awesome big brother, and will be such a helper (i sure hope so!!), but again i expect problems.  my son does seem to like to go to grandma's house, i think sometimes its to get away from the whole baby thing-- but he is always glad to see me, more so than my husband who is his best big buddy.  i think a lot of it might stem from fear of loosing momma to the new baby-- maybe what i'm doing isn't right, but i'm trying to spend as much time with my son now, before the baby gets here, and i'm going to try to get him involved with helping when the baby does get here (changing diapers, getting wipes, clothes, etc)-- i don't know if that will work out or not-- but hopefully it does.

Answer 3

His life is changing dramatically and he knows it. So he is just stressed out. Give him some time, encourage him, and he'll be alright.

Answer 4

He's just adjusting to the change, my son is acting differently too.  Just let him know that you love him

Answer 5

My daughter does it also, but she is 3. Maybe there is something going on at school that is giving him anxiety? I've known kids that do cling to their mom after something happened at school. I think you should talk to him and see if it really is the baby or something else.