Pros of Divorce?????

Question

my parents recently told me they were getting divorced- im pretty bummed about it so are there any good things about this....?

i know its prob the wrong category but i kinda want more of a teenager prospective- because i am a teen myself

Answer 1

they will both be happier

they will have more time for you

u get double the birthday and christmas gifts

Answer 2

There aren't many pros of divorce. You get switched around from one parent to another, the parent you live with the most gets paid from the other one to keep you...there are so many more cons than pros in these situations. The only pro I could think of for me was (I'm a teenage military brat) I wouldn't have to move around every three years.

You will be bummed for a little while but you'll realize that this was probably better than your parents always fighting. Divorce shouldn't be the first choice though, just remember that. The earlier your parents get divorce the harder it is to trust someone later on in life.  

Answer 3

They won't be constantly fighting and you don't have to deal with it.  

Answer 4

Well u get two lots of presents on christmas and your birthday sowwi they getting divorced  

Answer 5

While I can imagine it being a traumatic experience for the children, I think the healthiest thing to know is it's NOT YOUR OR YOUR SIBLINGS FAULT.

Your mom and dad have fell out of love, and consequently are not happy.  Divorce is the only shot they have of maybe becoming happy, although there are no guarantees.

Best case scenario is they will continue to be supportive, loving parents and just live in different homes.  Also hopefully they'll meet mates that make them happy and you'll adore the new people who've come into your life and made your parents feel so great.

Good luck kid.  It's an adult thing.  Learn from it and DONT settle for someone when it's time for you to marry.  Make sure you are 100% certain.  There are obvious signs of unstable relationships and people ignore them and get married anyways, all the time.  And again, there's no guarantees.

Answer 6

they wont fight anymore

Answer 7

Well, everyone else is saying that it's good because they'll be happy. But that really doesn't affect you, so I'll give you my teenage perspective.

Well, I would say that the best thing is that when your mad at your mom or dad you can call up the other parent and go over thier house.

Also, if you really want something, you get 2 chances to get it.

Since you're a teen you'll probably get a say in who gets custody of you. My parents have 50-50 custody, but we (me and brothers) spend more time with are dad.

Um, that's all I really got. But I love the fact that when my mom is being stupid I can always call up my dad.  

Answer 8

Um ur parents will be happier and u can spend more time alone with them, also u get 2 bedrooms,2 of every holiday...Also ur parent's won't fight

so i hope everything works out for the best for u and ur family

srry that's all i can think of if i think of more i will edit and put more to my answer i hope i was some help to u...good luck and i wish u and ur family the best.......

Answer 9

i know how u feel my parents divorced when i was 7 and it was the worse thing ever well at the time i thought it was . my dad was with someone i called my aunt since she was with my uncle my fathers brother before my dad... so it was really hard seeing my dad with someone else and someone else i loved already . as the years went on it was still hard and i use to cry all the time cuase they were together but thye were much happier with out one anohter,,,,,, when i was about 15 they got back together and i thought it was the weriest thing and i didnt even like it . some times u just gotta see that love isnt the only thing that keeps ppl together and me seeing my father happy made me happy adn seeing my mother happy also made me happy .. its not going to be the easiest thing but they will be able to love u alot more since they will most likly be more happy .  

Answer 10

1. Your parents won't being fighting any more

2. Your parents can be happier and move on in their lifes.

3. You will get to spend more time alone with them.

sorry sweetie thats all i could think of.

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Answer 11

My parents divorced when I was 9.  Here are a few pros I can think of...

1)  Hopefully, no more fighting.

2)  Your parents will be happier.

3)  Perhaps your parents will find new people that they truly love and will be with forever.

4)  If you do eventually have step-parents... all the more people to love you!

Yeah, it is hard and it hurts, but just think of your parents.  Would you rather them stay together, even though it hurts and is hard and they don't love each other.... or would you rather then be apart and possibly be able to find the person they were meant to be with?  For me, it's the second option.  :-)

Plus, you learn that it's important to marry the person you know you will be with forever... you will know how hard divorce is, and hopefully, will find a way to prevent it in your own life.

Answer 12

-If they share custody you'll have two houses and two Christmases and Easters.

-You'll probably get two different sets of rules form each parent that you'll only have to follow at that parent's house.

-You might get new step parents and step siblings(hopefully they're nice).

Answer 13

My parents were divorced when I was 17. It was actually a relief. Either your parents fight a lot, and you'll be glad that's all over, or they're like mine- I never understood what they saw in each other. They were total opposites.

So, there you have it. If you are close with them, I'd ask questions like, do they think they fell out of love, or just never were really in love, how do you know you're in love, etc. They will probably like to share their thoughts and feelings on this, and it will be good for you.

Years after the divorce and in a marriage of my own, I still have some issues because I never really saw a healthy relationship. If this might be the case for you, you'll probably be glad to get some advice on this one day.

Oh, and don't get involved by becoming either one's best friend or choosing sides. That sucks.

Good luck.

Answer 14

my parents got divorced when i was like 6 i think, and its really not that bad. that might be just because im used to it, but it really didnt affect me. some pros are that they  wont fight as much, you et to have two houses, and this sounds really really childsh, but you get twice the presents. ; ) it can still be a little frustrating, but its probably for the best.

Answer 15

They will be able to concentrate on you more...instead of stressing out about their relationship with one another!  It's better now than when you are older.  My parents divorced 4 years ago when I was 27 years old.  It tore the whole family apart....I have 2 older siblings...and my parents have 12 grandkids....no one talks to one another...it's sad.  So with that said, be thankful you don't have to get in the middle of it as an adult!

Good luck!  

Answer 16

They wont fight anymore. and double the b-day and christmas presentds.

Answer 17

First of all, I understand why you're bummed out, and I'm sorry you have to go through it.

My parents divorced when I was 7. I don't remember much about their relationship before then, but to tell the truth, I can't even imagine what brought them together in the first place.

Although it will be hard initially, the divorce will likely bring more harmony in your family. Plus, what everyone else has been saying - two of everything! It was sweet opening presents with my mom on Xmas eve, and then again with my dad on Xmas morning. Not to promote materialism, but it is pretty nice. Two houses - depending on how far your parents live from each other, you'll have someplace to go if one parent is getting on your nerves or out of town or something.

Your parents will be a lot happier and probably better parents for it. They'll both be in your life, still, after all.

Best of luck to you. If it's still bumming you out why not try talking to an adult about it (not a parent, someone like a trusted teacher or guidance counselor). Look online for groups and chatrooms for divorced kids. You'll feel better once time has passed.

Answer 18

My parents divorced when I was 7.

Pros: Step-parents and step-brothers/sisters (if they're good.)

Umm... I can't really think of any other pros. I've had the worst time with my parents divorce, so I can't really think of too many postive aspects. It was so far, the hardest thing I've had to deal with, accept my addiction.

Answer 19

My parents got divorced when I was younger, it actually turned out to be better that way. There was no more fighting, they both still loved me just as much and my parents still talk to each other...even though my dad lives with the Step Monster now :P

Sometimes things just happen for a reason. Sorry about the cliche.

Answer 20

Hi,

I'm fifteen, and my parents had gotten divorced around two years ago. The whole process took them about a year, but it is all over now, and I am having the best time in my life right now.

My dad used to hit my mom, and it was awful. During the divorce, I went from living only with my dad, to living with my mom, to living with both of them, until the divorced was finalized. I had a younger brother who was only two at the time also, so I felt very stressed out all the time.

I want to tell you that you need to put your faith in God right now. He is the only one here who can help you. No matter which way this divorce goes, your God will be there with you.

When I was living with my dad, there was no rules, no consequences, no nothing. Couple that with the fact I had a boyfriend and raging hormones, and my family was extremely poor. I was running amock around town, dressing like a s***k. I nearly lost my virginity a few times, and I ruined my grades. There will always be that parent who doesn't enforce rules, and you may wind up living with them for sometime. You need to be able to fend for yourself, (do laundry, dishes etc.) also you need to be able to stick to your own boundaries. For example, if you know in your right mind, that that skirt in your closet is short, don't wear it. If you know if you go out with this guy to the movies that you're going to get into some trouble, DON'T DO IT.

I made so many irreversable mistakes during my parent's divorce because I didn't know who my God is, and because of foolishness. Keep your head on your shoulders, and stay with good morals and God. One of my biggest mistakes I made throughout my parent's divorce was that I was worrying about my parents. DON'T DO IT. Now is the time to be a little selfish. If you have a younger sibling, care for them, but don't stress over the divorce. Who ever you wind up with is God's Will, not your own. You need to focus on God.

I live with alot of guilt from my own actions, sometimes I feel sad about my parent's divorce still. I haven't seen my dad for a couple years now, and it hurts me. But, if I hadn't gone through all h**l back then, I wouldn't be the way I am now. Everyone must suffer, it's the only way that we learn and we grow. This will be tough, but you have a Gid on your side and a fighting spirit. Please I BEG of you, please don't forget your God. It will be the biggest mistake of your life if you do, take it from me.

If you need ay support or anything, please message me. God will be with you throughout this, even if I say all this to you in vain now, I am sure you will look back at this hard time, and know in your heart you are wiser because of it.  

Answer 21

u will probably get 2 of everything...2 houses...2 sets of parents...

Answer 22

Well, now I only have to see my dad once a month, which is good for me, but some kids might not like that.  I am now much happier because of the divorce, but again, some kids would not feel like that.