Question about your opinion on childbirth...?

Question

I heard someone say the other day that a woman loses all self respect, modesty and dignity when she gives birth and i was somewhat surprised to hear this.

I am aware that giving birth is not the most tidy of things but my own opinion is that it is a special occaision, something totally normal and natural for a woman to go through and cant get my head around giving birth as something that should make you lose self respect and dignity- its normal after all!

Interested to know other opinions on this matter...

Answer 1

Personally I find it disgusting and see no dignity in it, but that's just me.

Answer 2

Whoever said this sounds like an ignorant tard.  Seriously... if you're giving birth, people are going to see your naughty spot... stretched and distorted and oozing blood and mucous.  It's not like anyone is looking at it and fighting back an erection... seriously.  I have 2 sons and was there for both "occassions".  It was seriously the most grotesque and gruesome thing I've ever seen.  I was thrilled to see my son, but all the c**p about the actual birth being "beautiful" is sugar-coating to the extreme.  I mean she crapped herself while she was pushing!  But how the h**l else are you gonna get the thing out of you?  Throw it up?  Like I said... no one is looking at your genitals so that they can sneak a peak... it's completely natural in my oppinion (although not a spectator sport)

Answer 3

You definitely lose your modesty when nurses are putting hands up you to break your water feel the baby's head (in my case my daughter was breech, so they felt a butt).  I ended up with a c-section.  I also had a catheter, and after giving birth, the nurse watched me pee and put her hands between my leg to get a better view of the blood to make sure I wasn't clotting.  Yes, they've seen it all before, but I wasn't quite used to someone seeing all of me before.  But I got over it.  After all, it wasn't like she was my next door neighbor.  :)  

Answer 4

Not true, for all i know it made my life complete

Answer 5

I think the nasty things about it usually get overlooked.. depending on who you invite to be present during the birth.  I have heard though that some people go to the bathroom accidently (both kinds) while giving birth.. that would be embarrasing to me but the doctors have seen it all and wouldn't be grossed out.  Like I said- it depends on who you have in there with you.

Answer 6

I think it is like farting when you have an o****m....it is embarrassing, but, well worth the loss of self respect.

Seriously, I think it is wonderful and I applaud women who go thru it. I mean, for men to go through something like child birth? No way! most men would take a bullet than give birth.

It is something that we wonder why? Why this way, surely there should have been another way. Maybe having the child born about the size of a orange, then growing three times as fast? oh well, that's all I want to imagine right now. But if we look at nature and all the ways of birth. It seems that all of them have pain involved.

Thus, this is the story of life. No pain no gain. Anything that is worth value in life will require great sacrifice and pain at first before the reward of pleasure. And we all know how wonderful a beautiful baby is and how wonderful life is, so my hats off to you women, I totally respect you.

CG

Answer 7

My last child was born in the early hours of a Sunday morning.

The mother was on all fours and screaming "get me drugs".

No surprises there, just like any other Sunday morning.

Answer 8

s***w having kids.

Adopting feels way better.

Answer 9

Anyone who says that is either very young or very inexperienced.

It's true that during the birth process most women have more to think about than 'does my makeup look good', but it's a matter of priorities.

If you want to put being neat and tidy ahead of the messy business of birth, go right ahead.

Of course, at the other end (death), it's not so tidy either. Luckily, few people have anything nasty to say about someone who dies without 'modesty'.

The fact of it is, both these acts, and many in between, remind some people that humans are, essentially, animals and not 'superior' beings.

Realising that, and dealing with it, are important parts of the journey to being a grown up.

Cheers :-)

Answer 10

Legs spread wide open while doctors and nurses peer at your unmentionables plus the f****** pain makes you lose all modesty and dignity, especially when they bring the forceps out.

Answer 11

I've had three kids and despite the pain of childbirth making me be unaware of pretty much everything, except the birth at hand(wasn't even aware of taking my clothes off for the birth), there was still in the back of my mind, occasional thoughts on how horrible I must appear, but there wasn't much I could do about it.

It wasn't only the midwife and hubby there in the delivery room, but also paediatricians and student nurses(even the bloody lunch lady) walking in and out, often without knocking on the door and them being able to get a view of me kneeling naked on a bed with my backside sticking up for the whole world to see, while I was pushing the baby out.  I felt like my dignity and modesty went right out the window.

I don't think the guy was putting down birthing women, rather he had a good point.

Answer 12

I think going through childbirth should actually earn you respect.  If only your partner and doctor are in the room it shouldn't be embarasing. Ater all, they've both seen it all before.

Answer 13

Who ever said that must of had a bunch of issues.

Answer 14

I don't believe it does - I mean it can, depending on how you view it. But personally, I think I'd feel as though I'd have more dignity knowing that I've brought another life in the world.

Answer 15

I think ignorant people think s*x in the future won't be as good after.

Answer 16

I agree with Lord Jim K. Giving birth should actually earn you respect. Whoever this guy is who told you giving birth is disrespectful well he should think about his mother giving birth to him. She didnt have to but she did.

Men do not understand what it takes lol trust me i had a 45 min labour and i wasnt allowed drugs because my son was pushing himself out. It hurts, it hurts alot and if a man were to feel that i think he would change his tune on child birth. It might be painful but it is also the most wonderful most exciting confusing feeling in the world. A time when i would sleep i couldnt wait to wake up just to see his face.

Answer 17

I though the whole thing was wonderful but I can understand why some one will feel that way.  Some people believe that child birth is all women are capable of doing other than house work.  Which of coarse I don't believe and then to get on a bed and give birth to a baby while accidentally having a bowel movement can be embarrassing for some people.  I have hear some of my friends make those comments and that is where I get this whole thing from.  I thought it was a wonderful experience and I am willing to go through it again and still hold my head up high.

Answer 18

I don't recall losing self-respect while giving birth.  Modesty and dignity are not issues when having a baby as far as I am concerned.  I had a long and tiring labour with my first son, and eventually they gave me an epidural after which I didn't feel a thing and that was great.  I wasn't greatly concerned about modesty and dignity, rather about getting the business over with as little suffering as possible.

With sons 2 and 3 I had caesarians, and I didn't feel any loss of self-respect during those either.  And they're definitiely a lot less tiring than giving birth in the normal way.  I recommend them highly.

I think childbirth is normal and natural, but like a lot of normal and natural things not necessarily particularly pleasant.  Medical and scientific aid helps to make it a less hazardous and painful experience.

Answer 19

i think they might have meant that women have to give up a lot of will power to give birth we cant fight the fact that there is a human being trying to get out from inside of us and we have no choice (some people might argue this) but to let nature do its thing... thats at least what i think

but the modesty thing i can kind of understand you really cant be "modest" while giving birth

but the two other things i think is VERY untrue

Answer 20

i wasnt embarrassed i was completely naked ina  waterpool but i didnt care lol!

Edit: what did i get a thuumbs down for blatantly got someone ashamed of their body. i thought birth was the greatest experience of my life. i would rather do it in a waterpool than be pumped full of drugs.

Answer 21

People tend to have different views on childbirth. I personally just see the pain, mess and the scariness which is why I wouldn't want to do it. But I know for a lot of women it's a miracle, a wonderful experience unlike anythig else.

I can understand peoples views about losing respect and dignity in some cases. I know in the UK with the NHS is such a bad state and understaffed, many women are not properly cared for or told what is happening so it's a scary process and they feel very vulnerable that they aren't informed what is going on and aren't cared for properly.  

Answer 22

I'm still not a mother, but hope to be in the future...

i dont think a woman loses all self respect, modesty, and dignity wen she gives birth.... she gains all that in the birth...

u may lose all that if you do something bad like killing, abusing, etc, someone... but when ur a mother u gain more.....

the mother becomes wiser

more nurturer.

more caring.

more  lover.

she gains much more self respect, when she is taking care of what is to come from her womb, a beautiful cute baby.

a gift from God.

that's opinion

Answer 23

I just gave birth 6 weeks ago to my little boy. I found it an amazing experience. It was definitely worth it and not as bad as I thought it would be. I do feel like my body is not the same as far as stretch marks.

Answer 24

Ya....

it must be all that SCREAMING!!!

Answer 25

The someone who said that a woman loses all self respect, modesty and dignity when she gives birth is entitled to his opinion. I've given birth and I do not agree. This is, after all, how we get children.

I do remember thinking right after I gave birth that women who have more than one kid are crazy. But my memory of the discomfort I experienced faded within a week or two. If anything, I found childbirth to be empowering. Through my body I brought forth life. How awesome is that?

Answer 26

It's all part of nature. As you said, it should be a happy moment.