My husband and I have been married for 11 years. During this time my husband worked, maybe 2 years total. I paid for everything, medical, dental and car insurance, all his clothes, all the food - everything I paid for. He's also been abusive; verbally, mentally and documented physical.
He finally decided he was entitled to disability benefits - he's a Gulf War Veteran. I helped him fill out the paperwork and we submitted. Almost a year passed and we received no information.
In January we were planning a move to another state. I was visiting the state (we were relocating to) and I checked our JOINT checking account balance. There was a payment from the VA for roughly $2000.
I thought it was an error, I wasn't sure if it was legit so I waited for a week before doing anything. It posted in the account, again JOINT.
We were moving with nothing, no furniture, barely any money, nothing. Instead of telling my spouse I lied, said I had won the money at a casino. I used the money to buy furniture: a new bed and a sofa. I also used it to buy groceries for us when we got settled.
I know I should have told him...it was his money after all. But I knew what he would do. He would want to pull half of it out of the bank so he could 'hold onto it" and the other half would be wasted.
We had moved before with nothing, spent a month sleeping on the floor - I didn't want to go through that again.
About a month ago I left him; I couldn't take the abuse anymore. I was losing my sanity and I knew if I didn't get away from him things could become dangerous between us.
He's threatening to call the FBI and report this as a federal case.
I think he's crazy. I should have told him yes - that was a big mistake. But I don't see how when the money is deposited into a "JOINT" checking account and it's used to benefit both of us, how can think anyone would take the case.
I think this will be an issue for our divorce attorney's to work through - but I don't believe he would have a federal case against me.
Thoughts?
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