Raising your child?

Question

Do you and your spouse disagree about raising your child? For example different was to discipline. My husband says I am too easy, whereas I think he is a little too mean.

Answer 1

In my opinion the mom is always easier on kids than the dad. I mean we are the people who gave birth to them. Well to answer your question,yes my husband and I do disagree about raising our kids...sometimes.

Answer 2

My husband and I mainly agree. We definitely have the same opinion on the big things like we both disagree with spanking - if we happen to disagree with a particular instance it is normally very small and does not matter either way anyway.

Mind you we have a great system for discipline that we put together with the kids so there is not much room for disagreements anyway.

Answer 3

OH YEAH AND THIS IS COMMON WE EACH HAVE DIFFERENT UPBRINGINGS AND IDEAS SO MOST COUPLES DO DISAGREE ON DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF PARENTING.

Sorry didn't realize I was in caps and I don't want to erase it! LOL

Answer 4

My exhusband sometimes says that i am to easy on the boys and should be more strict on things.  He was always more the "seen but not heard" type when it came to the kids but I like to be around them and hear them laughing and playing.  They say most couples disagree on things it is just about comprimising on things and working out agreements together.  I know even though my boyfriend and i both have similar beliefs he still has things that i don't do.  He does spank sometimes and can be extremly strict but i am more laid back on many things.

Answer 5

for the most part we agree on how to discipline, but of course we have our dis-agreements but don't step it if we don't agree but talk about it privately later when the kids aren't around, and we usually come to an agreement, because sometimes he says i go overboard on grounding and taking things away, and i think he doesn't always let them be kids but treats them as if they should act like adults......... but for the most part we're on the same page.

Answer 6

My husband says I am too mean/strict, and I think he's lazy. He ignores the big things, and only complains about the bad behaviors that interrupt his day....

Answer 7

You need to learn to meet in the middle.  You should both sit down and discuss what discipline points are important to the both of you.  You should both prioritize what points are most important to you and negotiate a joint strategy for raising your kid.

I have seen kids raised in families that flip flop.  They learn early on how to milk the system and they do a good job of becoming brats.

My wife and I have spent a lot of time discussing how our daughter will be raised.  We have both compromised and are happy for it.