Refering to my previous question?

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I don't want to add more comment to the previous question.

Sorry this is not exactly an adoption question, but this is what my concern is, I have been diagnosed to be depressed, and don't know what post-partum depression is like. This is what I was refering to about the stress of having twins. I seriously don't want break down mentally, because my mom and my sister both have bipolar and it's genetic. I don't want to be like my mother, who was physically abused her kids. Even though, I'm not known to be abusive, but I'm afraid my depression will progress that's why I'm thinking about adoption

Answer 1

How is your condition when stabalized on meds? A lot of people can raise kids when bipolar it depends on how sevier your condition is and how well you take care of yourself. You would definately need some sort of support group. I wouldn't want to see your twins having to come into foster care.

Answer 2

Maybe you should talk to a therapist, psychologist, or someone like that to get his or her opinion of whether they think you are even in the right state of mind to make this decision.  I don't get the impression that you think this is a game.  I do think that you want to make the correct decision.  Given the details, I could see why you would think that adopt is the best choice, and it may be. However, you may regret it alot some day, so you need to really think this through.  

Best of luck to you.  I really think you need to talk to a professional that you trust.  Couseling wouldn't be a bad idea if you have depression and possible bi polar disorder anyway.

Answer 3

ppd can be controlled and it is not a permanent depression. if you are diagnosed your ob should be aware of this and preparing you for what may come. other than that i would say speak to your ob and he/she should be able to go over everything concerning ppd with that knowledge make your decision. it is a medical problem that can be controlled but use your best judgment when you have all the facts

good luck

Answer 4

Well you can try it on your own and if it doesn't work you can pick out the family you want the baby to go to and they will know you are the mother.

You always want the best for your children and if you are unstable in anyway and your children need to be taken care of properly then I believe you would be doing  a great thing for them. At least you tried and you admit you have a problem most people can't do that.

Answer 5

i think that you are very wise in considering these options.  it tells me that you are being rational and thoughtful about your choices and trying to take care of yourself and future children.  first of all, you are at risk (as you stated) and especially since you've been diagnosed as depressed--don't add any more stress to your life until that is resolved.  having a baby (whether adopted or natural) is high stress.  i think that you should protect yourself as much as possible from future problems.  wait until your depression lifts, then seriously consider going the adoption route.  at least you won't have to go through the hormonal triggers of post-partum, and you won't be passing the "bipolar" gene on to your future children...best wishes, smart lady!

Answer 6

Taro, even though you may feel overwhelmed now, you can get through this just fine with your twin babies.  First, contact your ex-boyfriend and tell him about the children you two are about to have.  In the course of your contact, you want to do a few things:  First, take him to the courthouse for a marriage license and certificate.  Remain married for, at least, after your children are born.  Whether you marry or not, your going to need his help and support for the sake of your children.  So, get a sample of his DNA (spit, Silva, blood, s***n, hair, skin, etc.), place in a labeled baggy and put in your freezer for use later.  This is for comparative paternity purposes for the genetic health of your twins.  Don't take NO for an answer on marrying before you kids are born for their sake, however, you may need help from your county/city family law/health center.  He must pay support for his children in most jurisdictions.