Should I be the favored daughter?

Question

so i didnt grow up around my dad because my parents are divorced. they fought over me in court all the time and my dad never got any type of custody because he is into drugs and drinks and my mom doesn't do any of that. so I never grew up around him. now i have a brother who are 8 & 9 and step-sister who gets the **** spoiled out of her by my dad. he bought her a car and has access to all of his cars and all of his property. she gives me a ride in her car that my dad bought her sometimes. but i'm never favored. my dad doesn't even look at me. I don't know how to be around him. should I just forget that I have a dad?

Answer 1

you should just talk to him  and let him know how you feel maybe he feels like you don't care about him .

Answer 2

No, don't forget you have a dad. Sometimes even parents lose their way and it takes a considerable amount of effort to get back on track, but it sounds as though he's working towards doing just that. I mean, think about it: He's giving things pretty lavishly now. That isn't consistent with having a drug-habit lifestyle. I'm sure he hasn't forgotten you, it just may take some time for him to get past the venom between your mom and him. Personally, my dad wasn't my "dad" until I was grown with a daughter of my own. I was angry and resolute that I was 'already raised and didn't need a daddy now'....I was wrong. We need our parents until the day God calls them home. There's some awkward time ahead of you as you figure out how to be around him...I can relate. But just remember this: you don't have to carve out a spot for yourself; the spot was already yours and no one and nothing can change that. Good luck to you, and God bless.

Answer 3

Dad probabally doesnt know how you feel

Have a heart to heart talk - He missed out on your life too and he probabally feels guilty for it ( why de doesnt look at you )It is not becvause he doesnt love you .. he did try to fight to see you and have you in his life .. he is probabally bitter over this too at your mom .

Tell Dad you love him and want to be included in his life and to treat you like his daughter not a stranger.

he will probabally cry and hug you  

Answer 4

well you shouldnt be the "favorite" daughter, thats a really stuck up conceited thing to want and think....

but your dad probably dosent notice you feel left out. im pretty sure a dad wouldnt purposley forget or exclude his own daughter. you should try talking to him about it & tell him how you feel.