Should I confront my wife?

Question

I found a sexually explicit card and s*x coupons from my wife's lover. She insists nothing went on and that it was just a fluke that she received such cards and coupons. If I can't get her to tell me what went on, is it OK to go after the "other man" and get him to give me some details? I want to work through things to save my marriage, but I need to know what happened in order to do so. I just dont know what to do.

Answer 1

They are from orgy night! All the girls get them silly, along with a free pregnancy tests and a pint of ice cream!

Answer 2

Why go after him; You need to work with your wife on this.  She is denying that she rec'd such things from him.  A fluke?  I don't know why you want all the details of their affair.  It is not going to make you feel better.  If you and your wife want to work this out; you need to work it out together w.o the other party involved.

Answer 3

You need answers.  If she wont give them to you then yes , go find out from him.  

Answer 4

use the coupons yourself.  

Answer 5

if another man is sending your wife explicit cards then its obvious whats going on...

dont confront the guy...whats going on in your marriage is between you and your wife..

sit her down and tell her to b truthful, tell her you can ask the other guy (dont really ask him) but maybe if she thinks you will she will come clean..

when a spouse cheats its hard (not impossible) to make the relationship work...

good luck

Answer 6

You need to redeem the coupons for yourself.  

Answer 7

why confront them when you can hire a hitman to take care of him

Answer 8

that is true, the third party interfering in a relationship you never confront them becasue they are going to do what people allow them to do. you need to confront your wife and tell her if she dosent tell you the truth or will seperate yourself from her for a while. see how she reacts to that. if there is nothing really going on between her and that guy then she will tell you the truth before you leave her.

Answer 9

if she says nothing happened and if u want to verify then keep and eye on her, tape her conversation, monitor thier activities....be an private eye and u will know what's going behind doors.  

Answer 10

Totally agree with chez.

Answer 11

If you're going to copy the Dear Margo column, you might want to wait more than 4 days to repost the same thing here.

Answer 12

Insist that she go to marriage counseling with you.  tell the counselor what you suspect.  Your wife will be more willing to share her indiscretions with a counselor than with you, whom she may feel will retaliate.

Answer 13

Make sure she uses the s*x coupons before the expiration date on them.

Answer 14

I think you know the answer.  You will not be at peace until you find out.

Answer 15

I suggest pulling your p***s out from between your legs and growing some balls. Hope that helps!

Answer 16

just so you know...i have never received a sexually explicit card and s*x coupons that were just a fluke!

Answer 17

I see you read Dear Margo today.

Answer 18

Confront them both and be checked for std's. Men dont give women s*x coupons for no reason,. You already know she screwed around, why do you want the details? Chances are if you learn the details of what went on, you will obsess over it for the rest of your relationship.

Answer 19

More than confrontation why don you love

Answer 20

Your wife made the choice to cheat on you. . . and it is up to both of you to save your marriage; you can't do it alone, and if she decides to continue to s***w around, then it is what it is and you don't even have a marriage.

Stay away from her lover.....your problem is your so-called wife.

Answer 21

Try this, should help:

http://www.videojug.com/tag/infidelity

Answer 22

i would confront them both