Should I give him a chance?

Question

So this is kinda long, but I will give best answer so please give me your honest opinion.

I've been best friends with a guy named Nick for about 4 years. We met when I was a junior in high school. We were very close and he claimed to be in love with me after knowing me for about a year. I admit that I liked him at times too, but I was always involved with other guys so we never dated. I was there for him when his mom suffered from a heart attack and died, through his attempts at suicide, etc.

Recently, my now ex boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me. Nick and I had stopped talking during this past relationship for about a year because he still liked me and didn't respect my boundaries since I was involved with someone else.

We became in contact once again after my relationship ended (This was almost 2 weeks ago). During the year that we weren't in contact, Nick was honorably discharged from the Army. He became addicted to painkillers and was an alcoholic (He turns 21 in a month). He is currently living in a halfway house and has been clean for over 5 months. He has anger issues and fully supports himself since both of his parents are dead.

This situation is tricky because once we became in contact, we got involved romantically. I do like him, but we are so different (I'm at a university, he works construction (and he just lost his job); my family is well-off, he barely can afford his rent; I've never done drugs and I barely drink, he's an addict, etc)... He has a boat load of issues.

The thing is, I know he is a good person despite his shortcomings. He is a very likeable person and can be friends with anyone. Should I give this guy a chance? What is your honest opinion???

Answer 1

Whatever you decide to do just take it slow---there's nothing wrong with dating him and seeing what happens--just NO jumping into things---he needs to workout his issues first. There's nothing wrong with the 2 of you being so different--you can work things out--you wouldn't want him to be exactly like you anyways... Best of luck to you~~

Answer 2

One word:

NO

Answer 3

You really need to follow your heart on this one.  I think by asking this questions your really unsure if you should.  Go with your first instinct, I think you should remain friends until he gets back on his feet.  You don't want to end up being his life support.  I'm thinking maybe he might become dependent on you for everything and you don't want that, you want him to be able to support himself.  let him know that you have feelings for him but you want him to get better before you can get serious with him to even think about marriage.  But if you choose not to have a romantic relationship with him  you need to let hum go completely, otherwise he is going to continue loving you and wont move on.

Answer 4

at times like this he needs you and u should give him a chance... But if you realize u guys can't work out differences any further you should leave...