Should I have a threesome?

Question

Early on in our relationship I expressed my interest in females. I have never acted upon it. We now are married and now he is acting like he is now interested in it and me to but I don't want it to hurt our relationship. Then again I am afraid I will like it to much.

Answer 1

if you both want it

if your relationship is solid

if you are both 100% honest and open

if you both communicate 100%

give it a go.

Answer 2

Don't do it, it will leave a very bad mark on one of your hearts forever. if it doesn't destroy your marriage now, it will, don't mess with fantasies

Answer 3

well, aside from the fact that you all would be having s*x with someone other than your spouse, and that's not supposed to happen;

there are a few things to take into consideration: what if your husband takes more interest in the 3rd party than you? what if he starts to prefer her over you and want to have s*x with just her?

i'm not sure if you are jealous or insecure but this can definitely be a factor.

this is his probably one of his biggest fantasies! (if he hasn't already done it!) he will be more than happy to accommodate you on your request!  

Answer 4

I say no because one day, one of you may decide to call it quits, but the other won't and go behind that person's back.  You'll end up crossing the line at that point.

I had a married friend who had a threesome with another married couple.  She did not tell her husband and had grown an insatiable appetite to swing with this couple often.  Added to that, both the husband and wife went behind each other's back to try to hook up with my friend one-on-one--so as much as they claimed to be open minded and communicative to each other, they were actually cheating.  It grew to be a mess for the married couple.  (My friend never told her husband, but she had a ton of guilt).

Answer 5

I personally think the interest is a sign of other problems surfacing.  I'd say get some counseling and go from there.  

Answer 6

if your not married. go for it.

get it out of your system

Im sure you will find it awesome!

if you never do, and you get married. forget it.

don't do then. it will be too late once your married.

it would be the end of you and it will hurt many.

my suggestion. do it now, if your single.

good luck

and many awesome Yahoo moments to ya!

Answer 7

Its generally a bad idea to bring someone else into your marriage.  One of you may get jealous even though you think you won't or it may become a habit.  It could even lead to cheating.  It takes three VERY open minded people to partake in a 3some, and I personally would never agree to it.

Answer 8

can i be the other one lol jk,. enjoy have fun!

Answer 9

if you do it, just think of it as a fun thing to do only with your husband, not to do alone- that's when it can turn into something bad. I think threesomes can happen successfully but only with a mature and committed couple

Answer 10

The question for you is this something you feel as though you need to explore in order to define who you are as a sexual being? If so, then I would say having a threesome is fine provided your husband and you are agreeable on the boundaries. This means talking about his role in the threesome, to what extent he can sexually engage with the other woman, and how much attention you want for example.

This brings me to the next question can having a threesome hurt your relationship? It definitely can hurt especially if it is not discussed and the two of you rush having one. However if you take the time to discuss it, plan it, and discuss feelings as they come up it is probable that you will have a successful threesome.

With that said the one thing you will find is unless you already know a single female who is interested in having a threesome then you may spend a lot of time searching.  

My advice would be to take it slow, talk about it, and work together to determine the best way forward. The last thing you want to do is rush into it only to find it has created problems for your relationship.

I wish you the best on your journey.

Answer 11

I personally would not. It could seriously destroy your marriage.  

Answer 12

most of the time introducing a 3rd or 4th person into the relationship, ends it. one person is always left out and eventually becomes bitter, DONT DO IT

Answer 13

I agree with D L

Answer 14

go for it man

Answer 15

BIG NO NO!!! If your in love with ur husband that should be enough. b4 u commit to sombody is time 2 experience with stuff like that . I made the silly mistake of letting my ex bf have a threesome for his bday and that just made him think it was ok to f**k people behind my back afterwards....it seriously messes things up. Its best to do threesoms with people your not emotionally connected to, otherwise in the end feelings get hurt.

Answer 16

I wouldn't....why bother getting married if your not going to honor your vows? If you want to have a threesome then u two should have stayed single.  I have had two sets of friends that did this and are now divorced.  It's a sticky situation and if youre willing to risk your marriage then i guess go for it.

Answer 17

Go for it, good clean fun :)