Should I say something??

Question

Is it okay that my neighbor deciedes to vacuum at 10pm or even 2am? And she walks around constantely BANGING her feet? I live in an apartment and she's upstairs and she's just horrible!! She sounds like she's bowling up there at 3 am!! I don't know what to do!!! :(

Answer 1

do not start out the complaint with the complaint, if you go up there and just start complaining, she will get defensive and not lesson to anything you have to say.  what you should do is try to find some common ground, knock on the door, when she answers, tell her where you live and that you were just going around trying to get to know your neighbors.  talk for a little bit and get to know her, then if she says any thing like, "if there is anything i can do to help"  then say, well the vacuuming at 2am is disruptive.  at that point, she may feel embarrassed, and apologies for it.  she may not even know that there is someone living below her.  just remember, do not start out by complaining, it will get you nowhere. and do not gunny sack her (build up a lot of complaints then unload them on her all at once).  if that does not work, try talking to management about it, if there is a news letter that goes out, they may make a not in it there, but if needed get management involved if you can not work it out on your own, or do not want to try... not everyone is good with other people.

Answer 2

Respect her privacy.

Answer 3

maybe she's nocturnal...

Answer 4

yes, say something! i cant stand it when my neighbors are loud at night, especially when i have to get up early in the morning. bang on the wall, call her, go over, anything, but you have got to say something! speak up for your own needs!

Answer 5

She probably has a shift worker husband or gets off work later herself. If she lived in a separate dwelling it would not matter if she decided to do housework late at night. I suggest writing her a letter and telling her that if she wants to do work late at night, she should use soft slippers and tread lightly and maybe drag her vaccuum across bare floors on a towel or blanket to avoid excess noise. This would make you happy and let you get a decent nights sleep and show you that she respects you and other tennants.

Answer 6

It is your right to complain.  Do so with a friendly note; avoid confrontation.  If you meet the person, make your complaint in the context of some other more positive discussion.  

If you get no results from this, contact your building's supervisor or leasing agent and ask them to deal with the problem.

Answer 7

If you don't do something, it'll just persist.

This assumes you don't want to speak with the neighbor yourself...

1. You can complain to the leasing office and they can take care of it by speaking with your neighbor.

2. If not, call the local police and ask them if there are any local ordinances regarding such matters.  If so, ask them to send an officer to speak with your neighbor.

3. If all else fails, move and make sure you get the top floor this time ... hopefully you won't mind climbing stairs.

BTW, I've done 1 and 2 before and have had some success.

Answer 8

You should try to tell them to sweep mabey at a different time. (?) Try going up and telling them kindly.

Answer 9

find out when she sleeps and buy the loudest siren you can and let it fly

Answer 10

The people upstairs all practice ballet

Their living room is a bowling alley

Their bedroom is full of conducted tours

Their radio is louder than yours

They celebrate weekends all the week

When they take a shower, your ceilings leak

They try to get their parties to mix

By supplying their guests with pogo sticks

And when the orgy at last abates

They go to the bathroom on roller skates

I might love the people upstairs wondrous

If, instead of above us, they just lived under us.

-- Ogden Nash

(I had to.)