Should I see a psychologist..?

Question

I'm not sure how to start this.. I'm even scared of telling people on here what I feel.. so, I think I have a fear of intimacy, and, I feel like I'm living in a shell, I don't feel like I'm being true to myself, I feel like I have forgotten some part of me. I can't remember the last time I felt truly happy, or sad, I can't even cry anymore. I've had these feelings for about, 6 months now, I don't remember how I felt before then. I was abused at a very young age, and then my parents stopped when I got older. My father still shouts a lot at me if I do anything wrong, or if he's just in a bad mood he'll be mean to me.. I don't want it to sound like my parents are bad people, they're not. I was never good at making friends as a child, and was left out. I keep everything to myself. And I'm really scared if I should see a psychologist, each time I think about this I get so close to crying. Because I've kept this all to myself, my family and my friends think nothing is wrong, and if I suddenly say I want to see a psychologist, they won't understand.. I'm only 14, and I don't suppose I could see one alone. I don't want to be considered a freak. I just want to feel normal, and be normal. Please can someone just tell me what to do, I'm so confused and I don't want to go on like this.

Answer 1

Break the silence!

Answer 2

I agree, say something to someone. It's best to let it out and run it's course from there, than to let it fester inside.

I understand how it could be mistaken from just teenage angst, but if you're sure of it, reaching out to people is the least you can do. I think you should talk to a friend, your parents, or even a counselor from school. You owe it to yourself.

Answer 3

OMG!  You described my feelings exactly!

I KNEW that I was different from kindergarten on.  I felt like I was in a glass cylinder and that I could see people but they couldn't see me.  There was no interaction.  During my teens I wanted to be normal but it just didn't happen.  I always felt like I was on the outside and actually preferred being alone. I dislike getting emotionally close to anyone.

My "feelings" are so stunted that I had to learn when to show happiness.  My highs are below most people's lows.  I hated how I felt and the things that I did to make myself feel normal.  I finally got so good at forgetting the past that I have very little recall of events passed.

I did date and I did marry but there has always been a part of me that is so private that I never allow anyone in.  I feel like I have to be strong and do things for myself because I can't count on anyone.  (I really can!  I have a great family).  But this is my perception.

I'm over 50 and I can tell you that my life was very difficult and that the difficulty starts and ends with me.  I DID learn recently where my problem began and I possibly could have saved myself a lifetime of emotional pain and suffering if I had seen a mental health professional when I was a child.

So my advice would be to tell your parents how you feel and that you would like counseling because you can't seem to be able to correct your course by yourself.

This is VERY important.  Please listen to me because I really do know how you feel and I know what's ahead for you if you don't seek help. I also know that with the right therapist that you can be helped and you can have a normal life.  

Swallow your pride when it comes to letting people know that your having some emotional problems.  It's no different than having migraines!  Do something, please.

Answer 4

I think that you need to see a counselor and ask them if you should see a psychologist. How were you abused? Was it really bad ? I think that you ought to talk to a school teacher who you can trust. Stop bottling this inside because you are going to end up emotionally scarred for the rest of your life and it won't help you at all. You need to talk to someone and you are not exaggerating so stop thinking that you are and stop worrying about what other people think. Do what is right for you and increases your self-esteem and self-worth. Love yourself.

Answer 5

male or female?

babe everything will eventually work out.

my life was was h**l thanks to my betch of a mother.

your going to grow up, get a job and leave them behind.

this is just going to make you a stronger person, see a doctor or something.

i never did but if it's a possibility take it.

Answer 6

these are normal feelings for your age, but the abuse if it was there isn't normal and you should probably talk to someone that you trust about it

that doesn't have to mean a psychologist necessarily but it might be

I was recently reading a book about foster and adoptive parents dealing with the "truth" and it seems to me that these kids in care have an even harder time then you do in some ways, I can't find the book or I would put the title of it on here for you to read

Answer 7

you could talk to the counselor at your school, if you're not comfortable bringing up needing help to your family.

Answer 8

I totally know how you feel, I had a lot of the same problem when I was a kid. My school counselor really helped a lot, since you can't get into therapy right now, without your parents knowing anyway, try that. Also try the boy's town national hotline, it's free and you can call anytime. 1.800.448.3000

IM or email me anytime you need to talk, and just stick it out... It won't last forever, things will get better!  

Answer 9

(}) hugs first of all..

if you need to talk lemme know, will add you

second of all hon

yeah you're only 14, you folks abused you, your scared of a lot of things in life and its natural because of your background ..

you need to a consellor, does your school have one?

you can confide in her...

good luck hon

Answer 10

Read this article its for you :-)

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/10...

After reading this it will change your life (as it did to mine). I'm 16 and i understand how you feel. And i'm sure that your 6 months of suffering is over, from now on it's all happiness.

Happy to help you.

Answer 11

It's OK to go to therapy, in fact, it's a great way to get to know yourself, and gain better emotional skills, and communication skills.  Talk to your parents, or go to the school counselor, sometimes the school can help you set something up.  Where I live, there is something called the Counseling ministry, where local churches donate office space to psychologists, and they in turn charge a rolling scale (based on family income).

Good luck.