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Should I stop driving?

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I passed my driving test a couple of months ago. It took me five attempts. I came home last Friday to collect my car and have been driving every day since then. Today I went on the motorway with my mum and dad, coming off the motorway they told me to 'keep right'. I wasn't sure what to do and accidentally drove onto the opposite side of the road. My mum yelled at me and i panicked and broke suddenly crashing into the kerb. My dad had to take over because the car was in a very dangerous position.

This is just one example of a myriad of stupid things I have done. I just don't think I have the common sense to drive and I don't feel safe at all. Should I save myself the danger and give up altogether?

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  1. don't give up just have your parents or a friend take you somewhere to practice*


  2. No please don't give up, go back to your driving instructor and do the pass plus, you will be taken out onto the motorways and will learn a lot more. This will also build up your confidence a lot more. Good luck.

  3. Driving takes a combination of motor skills, concentration, experience and knowledge.

    It sounds like you need more experience and knowledge.

    Right now you are nervous and less confident while driving with your parents because you are not yet comfortable.  Take a driving class from a professional instructor. It will boost your confidence and give you more experience and knowledge.

  4. God PLEASE stop driving - you are clearly NOT competent.

  5. Sounds like your parents are knocking your confidence.

    It is vital to remember that you are now learning to drive and have only got a grasp of the basics.

    Mum should NOT have shouted at you-she should have explained better

    Go on a Pass Plus course,

    Get out there and enjoy driving, And if she yells at you again tell her to catch a bus

  6. You need experience to deal with sifferent situations.

    Best to stick with the familiar initially, drive in daylight, in fair weather and when you aren't tired. Don't drive with a crowd of your mates in the back and the stereo blasting out - you don't need the distractions.

    Keep your speed down (but not so as to cause tailbacks) and keep a good distance from other vehicles. Pull over if you feel you are becoming stressed.

    Atleast you are aware of your limitations, which is more than so many young drivers.

  7. Today you learn a valuable lesson, you won't make that particular mistake again, don't give up you'll get better with time and practise, I've been driving for 42 years and have made one or two (maybe more) gaff's along the way everybody does and ones that say they haven't are telling fibs.

  8. some people can drive naturally some cant ....stick to the bus love..before you kill someone.

  9. Parents have the habit of giving misleading instructions. They tend to forget that they know it all, whereas you don't - yet. Always keep left. The worst that can happen is you miss a turning.

    As advised do the Pass Plus. It will help your confidence a lot.

  10. try to make smaller journeys by yourself,don't have back seat passengers - build your confidence slowly.

    they talk about boy racers,old folk but the worst and most dangerous drivers are nervous drivers,you have to build your confidence - you passed your test so you must have it in you.

    take it at your own pace,the roads are no place for nervous,hesitant,unsure drivers !!!

  11. Youu sound more nervous than anything else.

    Firstly, stay off motorways til youre more comfortable.

    When I passed I personally, found it easier to drive on my own as there is less pressure.  I also got a sat nav as I found it told me where to go ("stay in the left lane" etc) and was a little like driving with my instructor.  It also allowed me to focus on driving rather than road signs etc.  Also, give you options to avoid motorways etc

    Your parents shouldnt shout at you as it will only further knock your confidence.

    Why not continue having a lesson each fortnight or taking your pass plus?  Would help your confidence.

    I found that driving (especially places I know well) was the best practise, so NO NO NO dont stop driving- that would be a waste of your money.  You didnt pass for no reason!  Just pick your times and destinations.

  12. No, go back to your driving school and ask for some more driving lessons, particularly on the motorway and particularly when traffic is diverted, I guess you panicked. Another computer driving/reactions to situations on the road course would help also. After you've done that, then for a few weeks, avoid the motorway until you feel completely confident, when you do feel sure about yourself, have a drive on the motorway on your own, have you heard of back-seat drivers.

  13. Listen woman, heres the truth, some people are just not to be on the road, some because they lack certain traits required to drive safely and i truely beleive your one of them. Stick to the oyster card for your sack and everyone elses sack, please. dont even sit in the drivers seat ever just in case you get tempted buy yourself a bike or something.

  14. No, you should persevere.

    To be honest, having your parents in the car is not the best idea, they can distract you and they are not qualified to give instruction.  Better to take a trusted friend who has some driving experience.

    I think everyone has nervous moments after passing their test, just give it time.

  15. No - don't give up now else your confidence will be completely shattered. Make the next few journeys with your mum or dad as a passenger.

  16. Keep On.

    The worst thing that can happen is to somebody in the car who keeps on talking you how to drive. One thing is a friendly advice, screaming "keep right" another. Passenger's expression saying "O God, I'm gonna die here" is not helping either.

    I remember my father yelling "watch out, a cyclist" when the guy was about 50 meters away and I had plenty of time to turn. But I thought there's another one I didn't see, so I panicked, stalled the engine... I started it again, moved cleared the junction, got off the car and I told my father I'm not driving with him in the passanger's seat. I even refused to drive his cars for couple of years, until he got a slipped disk and needed somebody to drive him to a therapy place :-)

    I think he got my point because when my brother started to drive, the father was much more supportive.

    But the thing is I missed those few years of not driving, although I got back to it very quickly. Missing out is the worst thing you could do.

    You have your licence now but you still can sign up for a few practical lessons with a qualified instructor to build up your confidence.

    Just drive in a way that makes you feel safe and comfortable. Some may find that slow, too cautios or whatever, but the important thing is that YOU feel OK when driving.

  17. just drive in familiar places until you are confident.

  18. Sounds like you have made a not so good start but don't give up

    You must have done it right to pass in the first place so now is the time to get back on track.  Remember exactly what your instructor taught you and put it into practice.  Most driving instructors would be quite happy to give you a couple of lessons on motorway driving.  You only have to ask

    Ask Mum or Dad, whoever is the most patient to give a few hours of their time to take you out to get more used to the roads. Start off by going out at less busy times and build on that confidence.   You will get the hang of it bot in the meantime think about a few "just passed" lessons

    Good luck cos it's not that easy out there

  19. i taught my son and daughter to drive and had some scary moments please don't give up if mum or dad can't do the needs book a few lessons with a instructor and get him to take you on motorway only tell him what happened he'll help best of luck and take care

  20. dont beat your self up over it! some people are more nervous than others, my mother now avoids the motorway at all costs since she had a bit of a panic on one some years ago. there are courses you can do in further driving experience which can also lower your insurance premium as well, maybe this is something to look into?http://www.theaa.com/drivingschool/passp...

    take it slowly from now on,and stick to driving areas and routes that you know well until you've been driving for a bit longer,your problem is psychological and you will be cured of it over time just dont give up!

  21. no dont give in yet iv been driveing over 30 years cars  trucks buses and  a train driver we all d supid things sometimes

  22. so you just past your test and your going on the motorway!?!?! Blimey

  23. Always remember what you have learned in driving school. As soon as you get into the car, even before putting the key into the ignition, put on your seat belt.

    Adjust your mirrors, both side and top to make sure you have a good view of the cars on either side and behind you.

    Find someplace safe to get a feel for controlling a car the first time. Start on a slow back road or large, empty parking lot, out of traffic....................................

  24. No don't give up, get back in touch with your driving instructor and do the pass plus, you will be taken onto the motorway and will learn a lot more.  Also you will get cheaper car insurance.  Try not to run before you can walk. Good luck. xx
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