Should i be with a soldier?

Question

hi, so there is this guy who i have known since middle school and who has been inlove with me since 9th grade.. the last summer before i went off to college and before he goes off to the army we become really close.. now he asked me out before he left, but i said no bc i didnt wanna deal with not seeing him and the feelings that come with it.. but ever since he left and after reading his letters telling me how much he loves me and misses me, i have been starting to fall hard core for him.. but i dont know if i should start a relationship.. im so confused and lost.. please help me :-(

Answer 1

you sound very smart, I'm sure whatever decision you choose you'll be alright

Answer 2

If you can't handle being seperated for long periods of time I suggest you do not pursue this relationship.  

You have to seriously thing about it.  You have been friends for a long time and if this relationship does start and then goes sour you will also lose a friend.

Answer 3

if you love him stick with him

Answer 4

in my opinion if you really loved him than you wouldnt even have to ask this question... my boyfriend joined the army in may and it wasnt even a question...   being away from him is soo hard tho... it would be one thing if you guys were already in a relationship.. but i would not suggest entering into one in these conditions..it'll only led to heartache... but do keep talking to him.. send him letters and let him know how pround of him you are and that even tho you dont think it is a good idea, that you will be there for him whenever he needs you... because soldiers are going thru a lot and need motivation from home  

Answer 5

This is a question you should be asking yoursef, not a forum of strangers. Is he important enough to you to stand by him and work on building a relationship, or are you just not ready to make that committment?

Answer 6

no, until he goes home or he verifies that he's going back to USA-you can date him.  Tell him that "i'll be waiting for you." And that will give him the spirit to survive in the war field if you want to date him afterwords.  Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Do what your heart tells you. Just keep in mind that dating and marrying a military person is difficult. With the separations and stress, it is hard on a relationship.  

Answer 8

Being with a soldier is hard, they are gone a lot and you have to be willing to deal with that.

They are great men though. Soldiers are Strong mentally and physically.  I have been married to one for 5 years and wouldn't change a thing. He is currently 8 months into his 2nd deployment.

Date him if you like him, see where it goes. If nothing else, you have a great pen pal.

If you like him though..coming from a soldiers wife, it is worth it.

Answer 9

You may wanna make sure that if you ready for long distance relationship. As a soldier, keep in mind that he would always be apart from you. I bet he would always be busy and maybe after training, he would have a different life. I guess you should definitely talk to him about that and wait until he finish his training then decide if you guys should go from there or stay friends. I know it's hard but if you guys mean to be together then no matter what you guys would end up together.