Should i get tubes tied?

Question

Ok i got pregnant with my daughter when i was 16 and had her when i was 17 i got married and divorced after 3 years im about to get married again and i am now 22 and my daughter is 5, my fiance is 23 and has a 2 year old that lives with her mommy but comes for weekends and holidays and such, i know for sure i dont want any kids any time soon if ever i love my babygirl but i just dont think i could handle another child as i didnt get much of a childhood myself and i look forward to the day my babys all grown up (though im not rushing her in any way) i just think man shes 5 and i just dont know if i want to start back at ground zero with a newborn cuz i will be 35 when shes 18 still young enough to enjoy being free again oh FYI i though about getting one of those 5 year IUD's but i cant since i didnt have a vaginal birth and my cervix is too small

Answer 1

Maybe instead of getting your tubes tied you could try another "long-term" birth control. There is one that is inserted below the skin in your arm and provides birth control for 3 years. The article below discusses it:

http://health.yahoo.com/experts/pregnanc...

Answer 2

i dont think u should get your tubes tied because you might not want kids now but u will in the long run. but at the same time that up to u what u want and what u think is best

Answer 3

Some people are ready to make such a life-impacting decision of a tubal ligation at your age but you must be absolutely and totally sure that you don't want more children... and it's totally OK to not want more.  Have you discussed this with your fiance - it's important to do this.  There are other methods of birth control available so that could be discussed with your doctor - but always use a condom unless they can guarantee the BC method you chose is 100% effective.

Answer 4

It's a total personal choice to get your tubes tied but you need to be sure.

I was 21 and thought I was positive and now I have regretted everyday since!

I would find a form of birth control and use condoms before resorting to getting your tubes tied.

You need to be sure because there really isn't much chance going back after.

I too had my children young. I am 27 and they are 10, almost 9 and almost 7. So when then are old enough to move on, I will still be young. BUT I am now looking into IVF to have more. I thought I made the right choice but I didn't. Just be sure!!

Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

What if you and new hubby want to have a child of your own between you???  Sounds like you're not sure.  I would stick with less permanent solutions of birth control until you're both 110% sure.

Answer 6

No you shouldn't get your tubes tied. If you voiced these concerns to the dr. they would never do it. You need to be absolutely sure.  When I was 22 I met my husband. I thought we would have two children. I started at 26 having our first. I am now 36 have our fourth.  Things will be very different in your life in a few years.  You aren't married to this man yet, and as you have already been divorced, you know things change.  If he is more opposed to having children, have him have the vasectomy.  Freeze his sperm if you want.  Good luck with your decision.  There is no rush.

Answer 7

If you're interested in a 5 year option, you could look into Norplant. It's an in-office procedure where they put a small implant into your arm that secretes birth control for five years. Then you can have it removed and a new one implanted. It's just another option for you to consider. Since you say you don't know right now if you want another, rather than being certain of it, you may want to consider a non-permanent option.