Single moms...?

Question

What do YOU do to get some time to yourself? What do you do with that time?

Please share how many children you have and their ages too, if you like.

Just curious because I'm a divorced mom of one (7 years old) and sometimes it's tough to get some time to myself, which I think we all really need.

Aloha!

Answer 1

I'm a single mom, my 5 year old's father left pretty much right after the test came up positive, he's never met him (I picked a real winner, I know lol). And honestly, I don't get time for myself. My son takes up every second I have. It's exhausting! If I got some time to myself I'd just sleep lol.

Answer 2

My wife likes to go out and shop or eat at nice restaurants with her mother.  She'll leave the baby with me if she feels like she needs a break from her (she's 19 months old now).

It doesn't help that you're divorced because it's not like you can just tag your man in like she can with me, but that's what she does.  Funny thing is that even though she needs a break from our daughter, she'll go shopping and only buy stuff for her.   lol

Answer 3

I drop my kid off at my friend or a family member's house. I do all the things I could possibly do in that time. I have one baby she's only 6 months old. Or maybe in your case you could drop your kid off at the father's house for while.

Answer 4

I am a single mom. My daughter is 8. Occasionally she goes with her father, but nothing regular or scheduled. When I have something that I want to do she can sleep over at her grandma's (my mom). Since it is summer, all this week she is staying at her great grandma's (my grandma). I still have to go to work all week, but it is nice for the both of us to have a get away. And she will always remember the time spent with family.

When I have time to myself, I sometimes will get together with friends, but mostly I do things I find relaxing. I like to read books and go shopping by myself!  :)

Answer 5

This is a question that I've been trying to get an answer to for quite some time....I have 3 (16,14&10) and find from time to time that I>m losing it.... Sometimes I go to my own room for awhile, sometimes we go to the park   that way they can all go their own separate ways....(of course this was when they were younger}  but mostly its at night when they are asleep that I get the biggest break...unless you can find a good baby-sitter!   ENJOY

Answer 6

~~Aloha~~Being a single mom for the past 12 almost 13 years, I have found that forming a large "support group" (good friends) has proven invaluable. My kids are now 17 (daughter), 14 (son) and almost 13 (daughter)...they have all been very active in Athletics for the past 10 years,my two girls,13 and17 in Cheer (8 years old to present) and my son,14 in Baseball and Soccer when he was little (age4-9) and Football and Wrestling now (ages 9 to present)...so I have formed a large group of Dear Friends (other sports parents) who I can rely on when I need some time to myself...we all have networked over the years by caring for each others children...sometimes up to 8-10 days at a time if a parent/parents needed an extended vacation..but most of the time it was usually just a few hours or a weekend here and there...now that all of our kids are mostly Jr. High  and High School age and don't so much need babysitting, THEY (the kids) are all best friends, watch out for and entertain each other since they all grew up together at each others houses...one of those Friends (whom I love with all of my heart) kept my kids for 8  days in May so I could go to Hawai'i(not only that but she drove me to the Airport an hour and a half away...and another one of those WONDERFUL Friends came to pick me up at 9:30 at night when I got home,so they do more than just watch kids...they are TRUE friends!)...Nothing Like A GREAT Group of Trust-Worthy, Reliable Friends!

Answer 7

Well I'm not a single mom but was raised by a single mom. Find out if your kid wants to play sports or something. Get him/her involved in some things they can do alone then there will be alone time for when they are gone. Talk to other moms and maybe they can spend the night at a friends. I don't know if you have family near or anything but have your kid go stay with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins or whoever. If no one is near find a babysitter and go out one night.

Answer 8

2 kids, ages 24yrs and 15yrs.  I guess it's a little easier for me because my kids are big, but my younger one is a girl, so it's tough.  When I have a little time, I go online, to Manhattan, or just relax watching TV and sipping some wine.

Answer 9

My son is grown with a family of his own but when he was your son's age...

Every other week my sister and I would switch off having our son's sleep over at each others house...I pitched a tent in my son's bedroom, gave them flashlights, canteens of water, kids fishing poles with the little rubber fishy on the end, a bag of marshmallows, comic books and kids playing cards. (go fish, old maid, concentration, etc.)

Some of the things I did on the nights my son was at my sisters, I would invite friends and family over to play cards, have a girls night out, go to the movies, out to eat, have an intimate evening with my bf, curl up with a good book...

I got to talk on the phone (usually uninterupted) with my friends, pay bills/balance checkbook, catch up on house cleaning/laundry etc. when the boys were at my house because they had so much fun playing together, pretending to be camping, practicing casting the little fishing poles, checking out the comic books...

Hope this is something you could try with your friends or family that have kids close to your son's age.

Answer 10

first do you have relatives that live close to you,if you do you might be able to arrange for your child to spend the night,or for that matter a friends house,the way you spend your time alone is up to you but whatever you do enjoy the time cause as a parent of 2 teenages it does'nt happen often

Answer 11

I'm Jamie. I live in Chile but I'm 20 year old american girl. I have one son named Santiago who I homebirthed in my campus apartment here in Chile with an indigenous midwife. I'm studying in the Universidad of Santiago de Chile (where Santiago was born) for this reason, I had a little time for myself. When I'm not studying or in classes, I'm taking care of Santiago. Sometimes to relax, I'm going to the gym to take care of my body. My friends also babysit Santiago and also a woman in the campus who I trust in her.

Answer 12

well, i'm not a single mom, but my mom is, so i know how she feels sometimes because she expresses her feelings to me and my sister. xD yeah, single moms are really overworked and stressed out! =o i know my mom is. maybe what you could do is try getting a massage or just get some time with the girls. (: go to a spa, get the whole works, or if you can't afford anything right now, then make your own treatment at home, using the bathroom tub. xD get your kid out of the house for a weekend, and just turn on the radio and relax. [= hope this helped!