Single mums answer only please?

Question

I am 19 weeks pregnant, and my partner just walked out on me, and said he still loves me but doenst want to be with me or have anything to do with the baby, I dont understand what went wrong, i know its going to be hard, but im blaming myself for him leaving me, what can i do, im going to be moving in with my sister as she wants to help but i dont want to be a burdon on her,

I just want to know how other single mums got through it im not due till october, but im still worried please help

Answer 1

Alright, I really hope I'm some help...this might be kind of long:

I'm 17 years old. I got pregnant at 16 by my daughers dad. I loved the guy, we had been dating a year before I ended up pregnant...he broke up with me probably around the time I actually concieved (like, within days) but I didn't know I was even pregnant until after 2months, because I thought it was my stress/depression that was causing me to throw up and be tired and cry all the time. After I found out I was pregnant I was very hard on myself. I begged the father to take me back and I tried for MONTHS to get him to. It was hard, VERY hard. I wanted him back, and I wanted my baby to have her father in her life. Well, apparently he didn't feel the same way, as he still dated other girls and wouldn't take me back. It took until I was 8months pregnant to finally move on. I stopped talking to him then, and just barely started talking to him these past 2weeks. My baby is almost 2 months old now, and I'm starting to realize that she deserves to have her father in her life even if he drives me crazy, and he has every right in the world to know his daughter, so long as he keeps her best interest in heart. So far it's doing good, he hasn't seen her but once (we live 3 hours away from eachother) but I update him all the time, send him pictures, keep his mom&sister updated. It gets easier.

I'm about to start College this fall, and I'm going to stay with my mom until I'm done and start getting money coming in. I feel bad, also like I'm a burden, but all she wants is for me to go to college, so I am. It's going to be extremely difficult, shuffling a newborn and full time student, but I'm going to do it, because I need to.

I'm sorry you're in this situation, just remember you don't need a guy to keep you up and going, but your baby needs you. Be strong, and remember you have an amazing miracle coming your way :) -you'll start feeling those tiny kicks any time now-

Answer 2

i'm the grown up kid of a single mum.

my mum and dad had 'issues' and they broke up when i was six months old.  mum didn't have a high opinion of him and refused to talk about him.  subsequently, i grew up not knowing him and didn't meet him til i was about 25.  

my adult opinion of him is radically different from my mum's - he's actually a nice guy and i have more in common with him, than i do my mum.

i hate my mother for thinking it was ok to deny me knowledge of who my dad was for whatever petty reason she had.

it's not a 'baby' - it's another human life you're affecting.

please remember this and MAKE SURE the dad is involved somehow in your childs life.

Answer 3

My babys father has never seen her. the day i told him was the day he left. she is now 5 i know were he is but do not wish for him to be in our lives.its hard at first really hard but as the saying go's what dosent kill us only makes us stronger.

Answer 4

Don't worry, you do not need him.  He is not a man to walk out on you and your baby.

My sons father walked out when he was born.  I had to build his crib by myself. He just turned 5, and we are very happy with just the two of us.

Yes, it is going to be hard. Emotionally hard. It's ok to cry, but don't blame yourself - he left because he's irresponsible and still a child.

Keep your head up, look for single mom groups in your area.  Look for whatever assistance you can get. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! Have faith in yourself, and keep your head up high.

Answer 5

Mine wanted me to have an abortion, and left me alone till I was 4 mo. along. Then suddenly was all about being a part of it, talked me into moving in with him, got me all emotionally involved again. He was there for the birth, then when my son was barely 2 mo. old he decided to get back with his ex girlfriend, wanted me to move out. I was crushed. I had to let my newborn go with him and be with her on the weekends. For a little while there I was practically a stalker--hey, they had my baby. But gradually it got easier. My son got older, I got to know her a little, I realized what a huge liar and a loser he was. It took time. I lived with my parents, they were wonderful. Eventually when my son was 6 I met my husband, and my one wish is that my son's father wasn't so involved with him. He's not the greatest person, and I would so much rather that my husband could have adopted my son when we married. But my son deserves to know his dad, it is what it is.