Spoiled twins?

Question

I'm a mother of three. I have two 14 year olds, a boy and a girl, they're twins. Then a 5 year old son. Well Stassi and Brayden, the twins, are starting their freshman year. Brayden isn't quiet, hes a know it all, he is a big sports player, he's sweet, and nice. Stassi on the other hand, is really quiet, she's very paranoid, she's constantly talking to herself when she's nervous, she's sweet, nice, she's a great listener, smart and she's a dancer. Our 5 year old son, Zach looks up to Brayden and Stassi. Well, whenever Brayden wants something that involves sports he will clean his room, mow the lawn, play with Zach, and even help Stassi with her homework. Stassi will go up to her father and say in her sweetest, girliest voice, "Daddy? Can we go to_______? Please.... I love you" then when her father gives in she gives him a hug and runs off. We are afraid that Zach will start to act like that, to get what he wants.

Answer 1

when she stars acting sweet to your husband tell your husband not to give in to wht she wants

he should just say : "no sorry not when your playing sweet" and then he should carry on with what he`s doin or walk away

if she trys this on you do the same!!!

Answer 2

You absolutely don't give in. That's the only thing you can do. My two year old always gives us the puppy face, and we know that if we give in, it will just keep happening, and her younger siblings will act the same way.

Answer 3

He could but maybe you need to lay down the rules with stassi? There will always be some stuff that he gets away with anyway because he iss the baby. Just let him know that if he wants to do anything he has to do his chores and stuff. Hope this helps =)

Answer 4

then tell your twins what you want them to stop doing or your take away their cell phone or tv or computer time (or whatever they like or like to do). you also need to focus on the positives the twins have. not all the negitives. go to: supernanny.com so you can watch other episodes. one of the recent ones had teens in it. also set limits and dont be so guilty. i used to do that to my mom and dad and i always got what i wanted by playing the sweet act. my parents started to set limits and take away my cell. then i learned that i cant always get what i want. and when stassi says ''i didnt no i was doing that'' or something like that. she really knows she is doing it. she is just putting guilt on you and playing mind games with you. hope i helped!!!

Answer 5

Watch Supernanny

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Answer 6

Tough one.  Twins aren't easy.  How about discussing this with your husband and getting him to agree not to give in to Stassi for starters.  To send her to her room for acting like a babydoll.  You've let them be manipulative.  You're a codependent.  Maybe you should discuss this woith a therapist.