Teen Moms some questions...?

Question

Okay I'm 14 and have no plans to have a baby but I want some real answers.

1. How old were you when your child was born?

2. How far did you continue in school?

3. Are you still with the farther, have a different boyfriend/husband, or currently alone

Answer 1

You do realize that you are talking to the 'success' stories here.  the mothers who had a support system.  

The girls we do not hear from here because they do not have use of,  or only limited use of a computer are the ones I think I would like to know more about.  I see them at the clinic, 14 to 18 years old carrying a baby basket with an infant in it, sometimes packing a 2 year old on her hip, sometimes dragging a three year old and a baby basket through the halls.  They are usually with an older female, sometimes their mothers, sometimes their Grandmothers.  

But they all look way too tired to be a teen, they are sullen, do not look at their baby or child except to snarl at them to behave or shove a binky in a squalling mouth. Grandma quickly intervenes and swoops the baby into arms, comforting and loving it into sleep. Mom looks out the window watching the parking lot,  face set, eyes diamond hard.

They look so hard for being so young, it is partly a body thing.  They are tired of carrying, carrying, carrying, picking up, putting down,  always carrying someone,  sometimes though most of the night.  "I'll take care of MY baby myself,"  mouthed difiantly at 6 weeks pregnant when she still wasn't showing, is a lot different that having to do it yourself when the baby is 3 to  11 months old and you haven't got your figure back and you still have to buy sizes 12 to 14 when you were a size4 or 6.  That hurts.  And you hate yourself when you have to buy a Large size.  Life seems like it over. the boys aren't hanging around NOW...all the good times seem gone..so all you have left is hurt pride.  And the baby you wanted so desperately...

  You haven't been out of the house for months by yourself it seems. and your arms ache from carrying a baby basket, or a baby and there is no one there to help..  

They have hair and nails though.  the nails are professional, gorgeous,,  The hair, often intricately done, or colored, looks better than mine or most peoples. This is  their personal reward for putting up with this life.

These girls did step up to plate and their arms are tired of swing the bat,  and while they love their children they are desperately sorry life is getting away from them.  More than sorry, angry, and hurt.  All the excitement and attention they got for being pregnant for the actual baby is gone.  No one cares anymore, especially the babies fathers who are mostly absent. More hurtfully the 'best friends' who just don't come by anymore except to tell you about their car, their prom dress, which schools they have applied to.  It seems mean, like rubbing your nose in their sucess.  But it like you, the world revolves around them  Except NOW you know it doesn't revolve around you. It revolves around the baby.  Whole different understanding and it is crushing.  You have been demoted, you are just "Lily's mom.or Braden's mom"  and it will take a while for you to feel more than that. .There is no one to share that with, no one who thinks no matter you are special ...to him.  the life of a single mom.

Sometimes a  teen family does come in, Daddy carries his baby in the basket, quiet, but beaming with pride. " MY baby. "  giving mom a much need break.   Sometimes a face tight with concern, he carries the now empty basket, and Mom snuggles a sick wailing infant tighter.  Today they Need to see the doctor.. she was up all night, screaming.."my baby is in pain and I cannot fix it.."  but it is shared worry. a burden shared is half as heavy..

That is what I see almost ever time I go to Clinic.

Answer 2

i was 14 years old

i went all the way through school luckyily my mom was there.

no he left me after i went into labor.but now she has a so called daddy.

Answer 3

Hi, good question. good thing that your not wanting a baby now it is VERY VERY HARD work. i got pregnant when i was 15 and had my daughter when i was 16 and three months. I finished school with my GED which i had planned on getting before i got pregnant. I aced it but i still have dreams about school and going back to finish my highschool years i missed out greatly on everything from prom to getting my license for "free" through school. Everything was a bit crazy. I am still with my daughters father, we were married three months after she was born. No big wedding like most girls dream of and my father was so mad he wasn't at my wedding to walk me down the aisle. Being that everything was so difficult and having to live off the system(medicaid, wic Etc.) I can safely say we are now doing fine and have just bought our first home. None of which was easy, and i still have issues that cause some what of a problem being that i do have days where i want to go hang out with friends, drink, do the party life. My husband is very generous and understanding of this and i occasionally get my moment alone. Advice for any girl out there thinking teen pregnancy is cool or easy or fun, ITS NOT! I dont get to sleep until 10 in the morning or go party, the friends i did have don't even want to talk to me anymore. I love my daughter very much she is my world and i would fight anyone who would try to take the happiness  ive worked soooo hard to bring her!! She Is almost Three : ) ♥

Sorry this is so long, but Lately ive seen sooo many underage mothers and that worries me. Go to Planned parenthood with a friend( you dont have to tell your parents) and get on birth control girls!!!

Answer 4

I was SORTA a teen mom (I was 18 when I got pregnant and 19 when I had my son).

1. 19

2. I had already graduated from high school, and I plan to earn a college degree in a few years

3. I married the father, and we went on to have four more children (a girl 2 years younger that her brother and triplets who were born last summer), but last year we divorced because we just couldn't seem to agree on anything. I was just remarried on August 7th (2008) and I couldn't be happier!

Answer 5

1. i was 15 when i got pregnant and my daughter was born a month before my 16th birthday.

2. i've just left school, but i am starting college in september and my daughter is going into daycare.

3. i am currently alone, father claimed she wasn't his child and left before she was born. ive found it extremely hard finding anyone who can put up a young mum.

girls, i would NOT reccommend anyone being stupid.. i got pregnant with my daughter whilst i was on a drunken night out and couldnt be bothered to use a condom. I was with the father at the time but that doesn't mean s*x wasnt a stupid idea that night because it absolutely was!

and my life has changed completely since.. and im not sure whether its for the better or the worse.

i love my daughter very much, but i miss my childhood.

Answer 6

1. I was 16 when I got pregnant and 17 when my son was born..

2. I had my son in Grade 11 and went right back to school a month later. I'm graduating in January instead of June. I'm taking a year off and then i'm going to university/college..depending on what field I decide to go into to.

3. I'm still with my sons father and we both love him very much! We are happy together!

Answer 7

I got pregnant at 17, but luckily I graduated high school a year early. Or else I would have been pregnant during my "actual" senior year, but where I skipped a grade I got to have my senior year instead of my junior year. So I graduated and after graduation found out that I was pregnant. I was engaged to my guy when I found out and we were planning our wedding for that fall. Yes, we are still together and now have 3 children together, and working on a 4th. I'm only 25 now.