Teenage daughter's are too much?

Question

MY daughter is becoming a pain in the neck . she is 16 yrs old . she acts like she knows is all. she lites up insense in her room, she is disrecpectful to me she does not like to be home at times, thank god she does not have her license cause she is very immature at driving. i do not have patient with her. now she has a boyfriend which i do not want her to have. sometimes i cannot be near her, she is to wild for her age . she listen's to music i cannot stand and it's too loud. i told her if she wines too much i will buy a pacifire for her. she acts like a baby. so what can i do about her

Answer 1

I was like this when I was 15!

The reason I acted like that was because I didn't get the attention I needed at home and my step dad was sexually abusing me.....

So, while it is common for kids to be brats...i would start loving on her and finding out why she acts the way she does!

Answer 2

She is a typical teenager.  Be lucky she wasn't like I was at 16, I was sneaking out and drinking and telling my Mom I hate her guts.  You just gotta deal, she will get over it and you will get along better, I promise. I love my Mom now, and couldn't live with out her.

Answer 3

It a very difficult period that all parents have to deal with. My mother almost had a nervous breakdown trying to control my sister back then. It something that comes with that age and it wears off when she hits her 20s.

Have you tried giving her an choice like if your living under my roof, you must obey my rules or look for somewhere else to stay.

Answer 4

Get to the root of the problem. If she is listening to music you don't want played in your house, take the cd's away. Or if she's downloading it, disable the peer to peer program she uses. About the boyfriend, set a curfew for her and know exactly where she is and who she is with at all times, if she has a cell phone, check in on her often. If he is a bad influence on her (disrespectful, troublemaker, does drugs, drinks, etc.) forbid it.  If she has a job and her own money, great, but if not, don't give her any allowance or what have you until she can shape up her attitude. Teenagers just get this way at times, maybe she just needs a little more structure, set aside some time on the weekend to do "girly" things, maybe go get a manicure together. It'll improve. Good luck!

Answer 5

shes trying to assert her indivulaism...be patient..pick your battles carefully..like no drinking and having s*x...the little things u should try to let go..the big things dont...try speding some time togther at mall or something she likes......put no pressure on her to act like u expect ...just be a friend and assure her u care...