I have been friends with this girl since 2nd grade (we are currently in 9th) and she moved to another school district in 4th. I will call her SM. We have stayed in close contact over the years and are/were really good friends. But since 7th grade we have been growing apart.
We don't really have anything in common anymore. We don't like any of the same music, I love movies, she doesn't, she loves Twilight, I hate it, she loves to draw, I suck at art, we don't go to the same school, and a bunch of other things. She doesn't really have any other good friends besides me and I almost dread hanging out with her now.
We don't have a good time when we are together and because SM doesn't have that many friends her mom keeps pushing us to hang out more and more and more. I can't stand it! Every weekend for the past 3-4 weeks SM has called asking if I want to sleep over 2 times I lied, one time I was actually going to my real Best Friend's house, and now I have to go because it is her birthday. Each time SM called I could hear her mom in the background saying stuff like "Can she come?" "Why not?" and more stuff like that. This went on all through the summer too and sometimes I went because I felt bad but other times I just lied. If I went I was unhappy and if I didn't I felt bad because I think I hurt her.
I don't like hanging out with her any more and her mom won't stop trying to make us hang out. I frankly don't think SM is having fun either. Every time I come over or she is over my house she says she is bored no matter what we do. Because we are both bored SM and I end up playing cards because that is the only thing we have in common that we like to do. I try to be positive when I am around her and I suggest stuff and SM still doesn't want to do anything that I suggest. So we end up unhappy and bored.
Finally My Question- How do I try to stop hanging out with this girl so much without hurting her? Do I have to keep lying all the time?
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