Thinking about Adopting.?

Question

We have been thinking about adopting a child. We currently have a girl and a boy and have been married almost 7years.

We are a very stable family. But a few friends have told me that we might not be able to adopt because of our ages. I am 25 and my husband is 31. I have been with him since I was 17. My husband has a very good job and I am a stay at home mom.

Could our ages be a problem?

Answer 1

No you will be fine. I am currently in the process of adopting thru our local county for the children that have been neglected and abused. I am 31 and my husband is 33. There were couples alot older than us. They also stated there was not a age cut off as long as you were physical and finiancial able to take care of a child. You should do it, there are so many children in the foster system!

Answer 2

Who are you going through to adopt? Different places have different rules. Foster care is a good idea but only if you can emotionally handle children coming and going out of your home, and how the rest of your family will handle that. You can run into difficult situations with foster care and your hearts may be broken if you go into believing you can adopt. With foster care, there are no guarantees. Do alot of research, check around, and ask questions. States even vary. Out of country adoptions can be expensive. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hubby and I are 28 and 29. No issues for us. Most b moms want stable homes and people under the age of 45. So you should have no problems. We too are adopting, the home study is nearing completion and I am so thriled!

I would suggest contacting some local adoption agencies about getting your home study done. If you are no gender specific, they tend to place you quickly. ON another note, be sure to ask questions about placement time. Some agencies have SO many parents they are working with it could literally take YEARS. Our agency only works with 10 couples at a time, and most adopt within 1 year:)

Answer 4

no i don't think so your age wont afect adopt  a child it will make a differntance in his or her life.

Answer 5

What seems to be the problem, the age difference between you (which I don't think is alot, it's 6 years and you've been married quite a while)? I heard about some countries having rules against people of a certain age but it's usually people in their 40's or 50's because they are considered too old!

Call your local social services agency and ask. Before you decide to adopt, you may want to try being foster parents. It's not as permanent as an adoption, but you may get a child who you later wish to adopt.

Answer 6

They definitely run you through the ringer, evaluating you and your lifestyle.  My parents adopted a little girl and went through a lot.

Answer 7

It depends on where you want to adopt from. It shouldn't be a problem if you want to adopt from the U.S. or certain other countries. I know, for example, you have to be at least 30 before adopting from China though. I think adoption is a wonderful thing! Good luck.

Answer 8

I would not think so, I would think you are the ideal age, not to young and far from old. And the fact he has a good job and you stay home and have other children will be a plus also, it shows you have what it takes and know what it takes to raise a family. Go for it.