Thinking of adoption???

Question

I am 24 years old and work at a daycare center, I've recently become aware that one of the children at the center was going to be put up for adoption, they are in foster care right now. I know the childs parents and what kind of background she's from. It breaks my heart to think of her seperated from her sister, anyways I've been strongly thinking of trying to adopt her. I have my own house and feel as though I could provide a caring and loving environment for this child. Should I go through?

Answer 1

This is not a simple situation, so there's no possible way to give a simple answer. You need to know more: about the child, about the situation, about your own ability to parent ANY child, let alone a child who has lost their original family.

Is there any way you can offer support to the family -time, energy or money- to help them through what is apparently a tough time?

Answer 2

why wouldn't you just help the family out so they could stay together? Why must you take the child so that they get separated? If you really want to help them, wouldn't you help them stay together?

Answer 3

Only you can know the answer to that question.  Stop and think about it and ask yourself if you are doing it for the right reasons-or are you caught up in knowing this child and her situation and are trying to "save a child"?  You will know in your heart if she is part of your family.  If she is then go for it.  It will definitely change your life and there will be some tough times, but the good stuff will certainly outweigh the bad.  You'll still have to get a homestudy and go through all the paperwork.  But what is definitely on your side is that you already know this little girl-this will make the transition a lot easier for both of you!  I am sure you would make a perfect mom.  Dont worry, you'll know if she is meant for your family and best of luck to you.  I think you should do it!  Sheri

Answer 4

Why would one child be put up for adoption and not her sister too???? I'd try to adopt both kids.

Answer 5

I think you should if you really wont a kid. I would love to do that.



     GOOD luck

Answer 6

think  the hole thing threw and go with yor first thaughts

Answer 7

I think you should do all in your power to help keep this family together.

Family preservation should be what is on your mind first and foremost - that is what is in the BEST INTERESTS OF THE CHILD.

If that can't happen - then siblings should be kept together.

You must look closely at your real reasons for wanting to adopt.

It MUST be about the child - not you.

As an adoptee - I know what it's like to live my entire life without my parents - and my 4 siblings. (3 full/1 half)

Nothing can ever make up for that loss.

Answer 8

Yes.

Answer 9

Yea but u have u find if u could which she will since she trust u

good luck.

Answer 10

I would go ahead and contact your social work but do NOT tell the child just in case it falls through for some reason.  Contacting the social worker is sort of like dipping your toe in that water; its not a commitment and will give you an idea of what you're getting into.  Good luck and God bless!

Answer 11

I think its a great idea as i  was adopted  as well, I think its a great decision coming from the experience and it would be easier on the child since you know her, just remember it can be difficult going thru the adoption process but the end is very rewarding! Good luck with your decision.

Answer 12

I would recommend speaking to the foster care social worker and get her opinion of the situation.  Adoption is a wonderful journey, and I wish you all the luck.

Answer 13

I think it is a great idea.  If you do it from the state foster care system it will take between 4-6 months to get certified before you are eligible to adopt.  The first thing I would do is contact the state and start getting licensed (you need to take classes, get a backround check, complete lots of paperwork, and get a homestudy done) and also call the childrens case worker and let them know your intentions.   If you can get the support of the birth mom, it may go more quickly and instead of being a stranger adoption, you could try for a friend of the family (it may cut down on the hoops and time).  

Btw the initial cost to adopt those children will range anywhere from $1,000-5,000 for attorney fees depending on whether these children are considered hard to place (since sometimes the state will give assistance to adopt some harder to place children).

Good luck!

Answer 14

i think that you should talk to her about it even though she might be young and see if she would want you to be her new mommy and then you should really think of the pros and cons if you are already caring for her and others and wont take her away from the environment that she is in i ould strongly suggest that you do so

Answer 15

Find out who will be handling the adoption, and "throw your hat in the ring."

Contact a good adoption attorney to get your home study taken care of.  That way it will be in place when needed.

Answer 16

You should pray about it & begin the process (it can take a while to complete everything).  You can begin talking to the social worker even while you're going through the process to get approved for adoption.

Is the foster mother not going to adopt the child?  Is the child's sister with this foster mother?  Is the sister adopted already?  If not, is the sister staying in the foster system (not available for adoption) for some reason?  You should ask all these questions as you investigate things.

Answer 17

I have been able to read upon adoption.  You would be a great mother to this child. You should go for it. And try to adopt her.

You know the child's parents and the background of her.

I want to adopt. But I am still living at home and am a full time college student.

    This child is looking for a forever home. When the child is in her teen years she may ask you about the adoption thing. Tell her that you love her and that you would do anything for her.

   My cousin's daughter was put up for adoption about a month ago. And He feels that its was the right thing to do.

He loves his daughter. And wants whats best for her.

One day she will ask for her daddy. And i bet he will want to see her when she turns 18.

I never was adopted. My parents were able to take care of my brother and I.

   I was in this program through a private company. Where I got to meet other families. And was able to go and live with them for a weekend each month.

   I was basicly like a foster child. I am still in contact with that family. They are my 2nd family. I do call them mom and dad.

THey do have kids. 1 daughter and 1 son. So I am basicly i am their other daughter.

  Just be honest with the child when she gets older.

I hope that helps

Answer 18

The first step I think you need to take is to contact the agency she is with to see if you could be approved as an adoptive choice for her.  It may be that they already have options for a family for the child.  That happened with a sibling group my husband and I wanted to adopt.  By the time we got all of our paperwork completed to become adoptive parents, they already had another family chosen and the adoption process had started.  If your heart is set on THIS GIRL then you need to look into that.  If you just want to make a difference in the live of a child, I would start looking for an agency that you can work with to find an adoptive placement.  

I think it is wonderful that you are looking into this and feel that you would like to help this child.  Even though my husband and I were not able to adopt the children we wanted to, we decided to become foster parents and adoptive parents for other children.  We have yet to adopt, as all of our foster children have gone home, but we love the experience of being foster parents.  

Talk to the agency she is with, since she is already in foster care, she would have a caseworker that you can talk to.  Due to confidentiality reasons, the caseworker won't be able to tell you everything, but he or she should be able to give you an idea of how to go about adopting this girl.  Best of luck to you and to this child!

Answer 19

is the sister also going to be placed for adoption?  are you willing to adopt both girls then?  i think it's great.  if you think they would be the best thing you ever did and have the ability to love and care for them go for it.  the main problem i see is just because you know them does not mean you would get first say in where they go.  you will need to get in contact with their social worker.  you will need to complete the foster/adoptive parent workshops and training.  and then you still may just be placed on a list of possibilities for these girls.  sometimes it works out, many times it doesn't.  especially if you are not a family member.  but if you think adopting a sibling group is something you want to do and can do i say go for it.  your perfect child may just be out there waiting for you.  even if it is not these girls.