This may seem weird...

Question

My son has this weird thing with lights if their on they have to be off. you can NOT turn his light on in his room. He screams and cries and grabs your leg! If your not in a room he closes the door, and he doesnt like to play in his room at all. My friend was telling me maybe he is scared by something when the lights are on.... like spirits or something. i find that very creepy... what do you all think?

My son is three years old.

Answer 1

Sit with him in the room with the light on and hold him to your body; tell him that everything is fine, assure him that light is harmless. make sure you do it in a happy mood, kids perceive that happiness and it helps reinforce the idea that everything is okay. Caress his head as you tell him that and just cuddle him until he calms down. Join him in the room to play so that he gets accostumed to it.

I think eventually he will start to understand that nothing wrong is happening but it might take some time, so do constantly and you might see some improvement until he's okay with it. Think of it as if you we're teaching him to ride a bike, first you must be with him at all times and then slowly let him be at his room by himself.

I hope that helps!

Answer 2

well, children do see things most adults have ignored.

just an example (im not saying this is what he sees) very few people like myself, are able to see the ora around a person or are able to see the angles around a person. one of my friends has told me that i have 4 angels that are around me. i know these things are true because i am starting to train my eyes to see the same things.

your son however might be seeing something in his room.

i would think about a few things

how old is the house

who were the previous owners

what had hapened in that house

but if its new

what kind of house was there before

im not saying there are gosts in your house, or mabey there is

im just saying that your son sees something in the light

or mabey its something telling him theres something wrong with the electricity

like an angel is trying to prevent a fire from starting in that room

check the wires in that room

it might be an unsafe room altogether

for the safety of everyone i would close off the room and leave the lights off untill you get an electrician

keep your son close to you he is trying to comunicate to you

is he afraid of fire as a light source?

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Answer 3

That sounds like a pretty extreme reaction. Talk to his doc, did anything bad happen to him? ever?

Answer 4

How is he with lights in general? Does  he not like lights on in all rooms or just his?

If it is just his room, he may be afraid something in his room, possibly the light itself. Perhaps he had a nightmare about it. I highly doubt he is afraid of spirits or something, more likely he is afraid of something real, the light, objects in the room or shadows the light in the room create.

Don't be creeped out. For one, your own fear will only increase his. But another reason to not be freaked out is that is you can be happy to know your son has reached a great moment in mental development. He most likely has developed an apparently rich imagination. That is a good thing, even if it is causing problems now.  

You could try replacing the actual light, which means actually removing the light fixture itself. Is the light fixture apart of a ceiling fan? Because that can be very frightening to a 3 year old.

Or you can pick him up and walk around his room with him (with the lights on) to see if his fear increases when confronted with a particular object in his room. You could make it a game. For example before bedtime go around the all of his things to say goodnight. You can go up to his toys and say "goodnight train, goodnight dresser, goodnight light, goodnight teddy bear." You could preface the game by reading "Goodnight Moon."

If he appears to be fearful of something in particular, remove it and see if that helps.

If, however he has a problem with lights in general I would have to advise you to see his doctor about that. Sensitivity to what is a normal level of light can be indicative of other problems.

Good luck!

Answer 5

he's normal -just put a night light in his room and peace will reign again!!

Answer 6

I'm not even gonna begin to assume to know your position, but thanks to my 3 year old I do have a couple of ideas. When the light goes off he knows its time for bed, the reason for leaving a light on. For some reason as long as we (parents) are around or near them they're happy. I can't even tell you about my son and our floor... So this is what I did. Night lights don't work, its not the same. Try taking him to the store and go searching for a special light bulb. My son picked one out at walmart that looks like a street light, it blinks and everything and fits right into the socket... It worked for him. My husband is in the army so he tends to have alot more seperation issues than the average child so sometimes it can help if you laminate a couple of pictures of the family and velcro them next to his bed. Its kinda like your laying next to him but not really. Any way I wish you the best of luck and the gate idea works too!

Answer 7

I believe kids see things we don't as adults. we've trained ourselves to ignore things we can't explain. kids are open and honest. they are supernaturally intuitive.

you should ask, terrified three year olds don't have a reason to lie.

Answer 8

Have you tried asking him why he doesn't like to sleep in his room? Or why he doesn't like the light on? Is it only in his room that he does this? If so you may want to think about changing his room, moving him into a different room if possible. Some children are (like the one lady said before) light-sensitive. Or maybe he is sensing something that frightens him.

Spirits or supernatural energy of some type is possible but rule out other factors first. Talk to him, be patient when doing so. You want him to feel like you are there to help, not to make him do something he doesn't want to.

Once you talk to him you might find it's something very simple like he doesn't like the color of the paint on the walls or the wattage of the light bulb is too high that it hurts his eyes. I hope this helps you.

Good luck.

Answer 9

my brother had this when we were younger he is 25 now he would scream about spiders on wall etc we dont no why he was scared .. my mums neighbour is a meduim and she belives kids do see things like spirts etc i am not sure x

my mum changed rooms with us and it worked brother slept fine in differnt room  

Answer 10

Maybe he's just sensitive to lights- gives him headaches or something.

Some kids, like adults, have their own preferences for things.    

Answer 11

I don't know if this would be possible but maybe you could switch the room he sleeps in. My son was terrified of the dark in his room for a long time and to tell you the truth I didn't like being in it to much either. We put a play pen into our room and he stayed in that till we moved to a different house. If you can't switch the room maybe you could paint it and rearrange all the furniture in there. It could change the energy. I am believer of things that "go bump in the night" so to speak. I also think if your open to spirits that are bad you could be open to the good and consider praying out loud in his room with him it might help make him feel secure. I hope you can solve this for your babies sake goodluck.