Ungrateful Kids?

Question

If you had spend £500 on your daughters Birthdaday and she wasn't talking to you and treating you bad would you give her a gift ??

Answer 1

I would like to know why she isn't talking to you? Do you live with your daughter or does she live with her mom? My daughters are 12 and 10 and they haven't spoken to their father in 6 months.  He said he was coming for their birthday's and when he didn't show  up the girls kept calling him but he wouldn't answer the phone.  Now he wants them to come visit for the summer, my girls refuse to go (can't say I blame them).  I told him what to do: Make the effort to come here and spend the day with them.  Show them that you give a c**p about them.  The only thing it will cost is the gas money to get here.  Sometimes kids don't want expensive gifts, they just want their daddy to love them unconditionally!

Answer 2

wow

I would not spend that much on my kids' Birthday!!!

Well unless it was her 15(mex) or sweet 16

Answer 3

No, £500 is more than I'd spend on both put together. Especially if she's not speaking to you ABOUT the party, I would say that it's her own fault and unless eh starts behaving better she won't be getting a gift.

Good luck

Answer 4

NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Give her a card and go on with life.

Answer 5

Nope.

I'd show her the gift though, and tell her that she had to start behaving, if she wanted it.

Just watch a change almost immediatly in her attitude.

Answer 6

YOu should it would make her feel bad and apologize for her actions

Answer 7

Why on earth would you spend that much on her birthday?  Don't know how old she is but I NEVER spent that much on my kids birthdays and they always treated me with respect! They knew what would happen if they didn't!

Answer 8

No!

Answer 9

I wouldnt spend (500pounds= $1000 CDN) on a birthday for her especially if shes being a brat.She certainly doesnt deserve a gift.

Answer 10

Maybe thats why she's so ungreatful, she's spoiled, has no respect, or limits.

Answer 11

What age is your daughter?  I personally would tell her what I had her, take it back, get my money back and give her £50 in a card instead.  However how can you be ungrateful to the unknown or does she already know what you got her?  She sounds rude and disrespectful though.

Answer 12

Wow, i would be lucky if i every had a 10th of that amount of money ever spent on me. She sounds spoilt, i would tell her that she isn't even going to have a birthday this year if she doesn't buck her ideas up.

Answer 13

so £500 is $1000??

if so, I wouldnt and especially if she was treating you bad in the first place

Answer 14

I was an ungrateful kid. I feel quite guilty about it now!

I don't think you can not give her the gifts. She'll probably talk to you again after she'd got them!

Answer 15

At her age, I don't think she knows the value of the money you spent on her B'day. She just know a big grand party or small party.

There must be a reason she's not talking and treating you  badly. Find out the source, then you may fix what went wrong. After then, it is your justification to give her the gift or not. If you decide not to give it to her, then better not to mention it, as it will cause another problem.

It would be difficult to find out why she does that, but you know better how to approach her calmly and make her talk willingly.

Yes, she pushed your button, but if you do not know why she did it, then your punishment would be useless. She will probably think of giving you harder times or drifting away. Either way, you loose. So, try winning by stepping back.

Hope it helps.

Answer 16

I don't think how much you chose to spend on the birthday is really even relevant.  

If my daughter was being rude, I'd address that and discipline appropriately.  Kids shouldn't be rude, and that has nothing to do with how much their birthday cost.  I could imagine circumstances where other discipline would be more appropriate, in which case I'd still give a birthday gift, and I can also imagine circumstances in which skipping the gift would be appropriate.  In either event, I'd certainly give her a card saying I loved her.

Everyone's right though .... how can you possibly spend that much on a birthday? I'd suggest that lavishing too much on kids is really not the way to make them grateful or appreciate what they have.

Answer 17

Why did you spend that much money on her birthday.  Why did you give her a gift?

Could it possibly be because you love her?

Did you stop loving her when she stopped talking to you?  Is your love for her conditional?

If you love her unconditionally, show her you love her unconditionally

Answer 18

She probably would not get the gift or the party. I'd give her a card(no money)...how old is she?

Answer 19

no offence why spend that amount on her still give her a present as a gesture but not that amount as she cleary does not deserve it, but she is your daughter and she will be offended if you dont buy her a present and that will make matters even worse. Its a vicious circle, try and find a happy medium

Answer 20

i think i would hold onto it and tell her when she changed her attitude then i would give it to her.

Answer 21

WOW that's alot of money to spend on a Birthday gift not knowing the age.  I wouldn't give her the gift.