Wanna be like my cusin (pics)?

Question

I wanna be like my pretty, cool cusin who everyone loves.. were like bffs, but shes always been better than me.. since we do a lot of the same tings(volleyball, same exact classes).. im fat, ugly and super uncool.. it's really been getting to me lately and i even cry sometimes.. freaks me out that shes so perfect and im like.. garbage.. please tell me what i could do to improve myself.. and be HONEST about how much weight i should lose and all .. i really need help right now.. theres plenty of pics here.. my cusins the pretty white one, and im the faaaattt UGLY one.. (ummm.. i live in latin america if that even matters) (shes got a green shirt, i've got a purple one)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/17648430@N07/?saved=1

Answer 1

you are pretty. now get on with your life!!

i had a gf once who was 5'2", 105lbs. she was a gymnast, ballerina, figure skater and runway model. everyone told her she was pretty. but when she looked in the mirror she would say shes not.

you are very cute. don't change a thing!!

Answer 2

Ii think you are beautiful. I think you are physically much nicer looking than your cousin. But, beauty comes from within. You have to believe in yourself.  Mostly beauty has to do with attitude. You need a positive attitude and a giving nature. Stop putting yourself down. Every time you think a negative thought about yourself, stop and think about what you have said. You talk yourself into feeling inferior to your cousin. Next time you think negative cancel the thought and replace it with something positive. Keep doing this until you are always thinking positive. It is OK to think that someone else is pretty but don't put yourself down. No one is perfect.  

Answer 3

I think it is normal for you to think that someone else is prettier than you.... but i looked at the Flicker pics and i think you are pretty in your own ways! I think u are gorgeous! Dont let your mind try tell you that others are pretty. you were created to be JUST who you are and noone or anything has the right to change it! Be your self!

Answer 4

yeah she looks ok and all but she is too skiney esp in her face, her skinney face looks longer than it would otherwise

if you want to lose weight i wouldnt lose more than five pounds

you look great girl seriously

Answer 5

Hi,

I could tell you the same as the others here, but the truth is, it doesn't really matter how much other people tell you that, you seem to really hate yourself, and have rejected yourself....and everything anyone else ever says hits the hatred and gets kicked straight back out. Am I right?

You are you, and even losing weight, getting new clothes, makeup, hair the works, they are all on the outside, and the way you feel about yourself is on the inside....wayyyyyy inside. Outside stuff is never going to change that.

Comparing yourself to another and wishing we are them is not going to help, it cannot happen. Comparing is a human failing and we all do it, but all it does is make us insecure ( when we see others who WE determine are better) or prideful (because WE have determined we are better than them), and then we are on an endless roller coaster ride of ups and downs, self hatred or pride.....

You need to come to terms with your outside appearance, by all means make yourself slimmer if you want, (in my opinion you are lovely), dress different and the like, but deal with your inside, what don't you like inside yourself that is makiing you think you are ugly, we just push it to the outside because it seems easier to deal with there. Read self help books if you like, do acvities that make you feel good about yourself, but most of all remember that the one who made you adores you, made you for a special reason on this earth and if you weren't here then it wouldn't be done just the same way as you would do it.

Find you how special you truly are, how much you mean to others and how much you can make this world a better place just because you are in it.

All the best and take care of yourself

Mel

Answer 6

You're going to give yourself an eating disorder if you keep this up. There is nothing wrong with you except your attitude. I recommend therapy to get over your distorted self-image.

Answer 7

You are way prettier than your cousin. You have better facial features and a much sexier body. YOU ROCK my soxs.