Wedding registry help...?

Question

hey everyone, I need some help wording what to put on my registry message. My husband and I already live together and we have just about all the essentials, besides a few just a few items. we have no more then like 10 items on our registry and some of the thigs are things we don't "REALLY" need, it's just that we didn't want people to feel obligated to give us money. Know what I mean? I'm getting ready to send out a message letting everyone know that we finally registered. I would liek to include in the message that we would prefer money because we are trying to save for our future house when we move (we're a military couple). Can someone please help me with what to say?

Answer 1

that is tricky...i personally would not send out an email like this...it seems rude to tell people where you are registered. leave that up to the moms and bridesmaids. also i guess you could tell your bridesmaids to spread the work that the two of you would rather have cash. but do not spread the word yourself that comes off very rude.

Answer 2

If I got a note telling me you would rather have money because you are saving for a future home I probably wouldn't give you any money or a gift. Think about it, if you are saving for a home,cut out the wedding get married on base and use that money you would have spent on the wedding as part of the Home Fund. Makes sense to me.

Answer 3

you could just explain your storey without even having to ask for money ..i would just say that if you need some wedding ideas we are registered at "store" we apoligize for the lack of items but we are pretty much set up in our house and just looking to save for a new home in the near future. Either way they will understand ..my husband and I did our wedding over seas so a lot of people just gave us money which worked out amazingly!! i just told my close friends that it would just be easier that way for us!!

Answer 4

You NEVER under any circumstances ask for money.  Also, why are you just sending out a "here's where we registered message"?  

If you are not having a shower you do not include registry information on an invitation and sending out a separate message....no.

Regardless of military status (we're military too and just moved our china again) you do not flat out ask for cash.

The absence of a registry will do quite nicely to indicate that you don't "need" things and you will receive cash.

It's amazing...we never listed any registry information in our invitations yet we received both gifts and cash....how did people ever know.

Answer 5

Don't say anything, let them give what they want to give. It's not their responsibility to help you save for your house.

Also, etiquette dictates that you don't "send out a message" letting people know you're registered. If they want to know then they will ask, otherwise the gift giving is completely up to them. As it should be.

Answer 6

usually even when you register you will get money it is easy for people to give and those that know you will know that is what you prefer.